Confused by her intentions

[teachertalk21]

My ex and I were together for about a year and half when she broke up with me out of the blue. There hadn't been a fight, she just explained she had lost feelings. I accepted the situation and decided to severe contact so I could move on.

 

At first she was contacting me regularly to see how I was. I ignored all these attempts because I thought she just felt guilty. It's been three months since the break up and she is still contacting me. Most recently she asked me to attend a three day reunion at her house and it has really confused me. We haven't spoken a single word since the break up. It's abundantly clear that I am fine and slowly moving on with my life. What does she want?

[Andrina]

It's never about what they want. It's about what you want. In my case, I'd never want to speak to a person in my past who didn't care enough about me to stay in a relationship. I'd block their number if possible, since I wouldn't want them intruding into my present life. If I couldn't block the number, I'd text: Don't contact me again. Respect my wishes.

[teachertalk21]

Thank you, that makes me feel a lot better. At some point I would like to be friends with her, but I feel the more she contacts me, the less opportunity I have to heal and move on.

[HeartGoesOn]

How is she able to contact you if you "severed contact?"

[teachertalk21]

I deleted her from everything and told her to stop contacting me. I assumed she would respect my wishes, so I didn't see the need to block her.

[Wiseman2]

Agree it's partly guilt, but mostly friendzoning. It may be best to tell her you need to go no contact then block her.

I ignored all these attempts because I thought she just felt guilty. Most recently she asked me to attend a three day reunion at her house and it has really confused me. What does she want?

[teachertalk21]

Yeh, thanks. I didn't want to have to resort to blocking her, but I guess it's for the best because every time she contacts me it leaves me reeling for about a week!