Help please! Mixed signals? Hasn't talked to me? I'm so confused

[SocksOnFox]

Sorry if this is quite long, all over the place, or if the grammar is bad. I'm pretty tired, haha.

 

So there's this guy that used to live in my town and go to my school. I knew of him, never spoke to him, I just had him added on social media. He ended up moving in August about 5 hours away from here.

Back in September, he started becoming more active on my posts, and ended up messaging me on Facebook. From there, we talked about mainly general stuff. Music, our sense of humour, etc. He gave me his number and we began to text a lot over the span of one or two weeks. Eventually, we just kind of stopped talking, not really for a reason.

About a week before Halloween, I got a text message from him out of the blue. Turns out, he drove down to my town for reading week and he wanted to hang out. I agreed, but something came up so we couldn't. We began to talk again, and on Halloween, he asked to hang out like before. This time we actually did. I had a really great time. He drove me around while listening to music and talking about basically everything. He took me to a lot of different places, sharing memories and such. I definitely started to get some feelings for him.

A couple days later, we decided to hang out again since it was his last day he'd be in this town before going back that night. Just like before, he picked me up and we drove around. We stopped at a few different nature places and all in all had a lot of fun. He told me about how he's transferring back to a school only about 40 minutes away and he's going to be living back here once again, but I'm unsure when that is. He hinted at making plans, like going out in the country and watching the stars, and he dropped me off at my house because he said he wanted to make sure I was home safe and to text him when I got inside. Over the days we hung out, so much happened and we said so much to each other that it would take forever to go through.

We FaceTimed the next day until we decided to sleep. He even told me he brought me up to his best friend that I used to know and talk to before he graduated.

When we talked online (we have to use Snapchat or Facebook because his phone is bad for texting now), he said he wants to hang out again. He made me promise that I wouldn't forget, and to not forget to give him a hug too. Not only that, but he asked me if when he gets home here if we could have a movie date. Of course, I agreed. That was back on November 4th.

As you can see, or at least from what I can, things seemed to be going well and I felt he was interested.

Now on to why I'm asking this question. The days following that, our conversations were really short. We'd talk randomly, but they were quite general. But he'd also hit me up at random and be flirty like before, still being short-lived though. We do have a snap streak, so we kept that going, but when he snaps me and I answer back, he leaves me on read. Or if I snapchat him first, sometimes he'll answer, but mainly left on read. Like yesterday morning, I snapped him and he answered, but after replying to try and keep a convo going for once, he left me on read again. We haven't spoken since, so our streak is about to be gone, which isn't my worry of course, it just shows/proves how we rarely talk.

He'll post and share a lot online a lot though, like for people to message him, or to FaceTime, and he also says some relationship based things. For example, he'll occasionally post jokingly about how his girlfriend is non existent, how he wants someone, or post about his guitars and say they're the only girls he needs. Just stuff like that, so they're really mixed. Which, of course, gives me mixed signals as well.

I guess what I'm trying to get to is, things seemed to be going well, but now I'm not sure where we stand because out of the blue he just kinda 'disappeared' or distanced himself from me. We made a lot of plans, but now I don't even know if we're gonna get to those because of this lack of communication. I really started to like this guy. He was the only one so far to make me forget about the last guy I almost dated. In fact, a very similar thing happened to me with him, so I don't want to go through it a second time. I was just getting over it, but now I feel like it'll happen again back to back, leaving me back at square one.

I mean, last time he went quiet on me, he messaged me once he was in my town like a month later. I don't know if when he gets here he'll do that again though. Besides, like I said, I don't even really know when he's coming.

I'm just really scared he'll forget about me completely. I don't know what to do. Maybe I'm over thinking, but I know so many girls would kill to have him, so for once in my life I felt special. Can anyone give me some solid advice or opinion? I'd really appreciate it.

[MissCanuck]

I think you shouldn't hold you breath for this guy.

 

He sounds interested when he happens to be in the same area, but other than that, he's not overly keen.

[Wiseman2]

Are you dating exclusively or mostly chatting long distance and getting together as friends/fwb when he visits? What happened on this visit?

 

What do you mean "he's helped you get over the other guy you almost dated". Do you think this progressed to dating or more cyber chats and friendship and hangouts?

 

Do you initiate communication on other media? Are plans still in place to visit each other? Are either of you dating locally?

5 hours away from here. Over the days we hung out, so much happened and we said so much to each other. We haven't spoken since, so our streak is about to be gone, which isn't my worry of course, it just shows/proves how we rarely talk. He was the only one so far to make me forget about the last guy I almost dated. In fact, a very similar thing happened to me with him, so I don't want to go through it a second time.

[Hollyj]

He doesn't sound very reliable, and contacts when its convenient.

 

Don't invest in this guy

[JaggerJim]

I think you should just see if he moves back to your home town first. I think you should stop all communication from your end and see what happens.

 

I think he relies heavily on you to do all the communication, and he will notice when you stop. Let months go by it dosn't matter because you too arn't talking anyways. See what other guys are around in the meantime. Overall, just see what happens.