I feel depressed, can't forget my ex

[fredhal]

Recently, my girlfriend and I parted ways after a 4+ year relationship. Initially I was fine because I was still in school and finals had me busy but after being home for a week or two, I have gotten more and more depressed thinking about the relationship.

 

Originally we agreed to still talk and be friends, and that worked for awhile until she got home and started becoming more distant. It's gotten to the point where this is becoming a problem, I am over effected by her and I need to get over her as soon as possible. A lot of my friends suggested taking me to places like bars or even strip clubs but I am not so sure about it.

 

How can I regain my confidence to attract other girls and get rid of the troubling thoughts from my ex once and for all?

[Wiseman2]

Was it long distance? Why did she breakup? Forget bars and strip clubs, instead you shouldn't agree to be friends or talk to her at all. Go no contact and block her. If you are ready, get on some dating apps to meet girls.

after being home for a week or two, I have gotten more and more depressed thinking about the relationship.

[fredhal]

Was it long distance? Why did she breakup? Forget bars and strip clubs, instead you shouldn't agree to be friends or talk to her at all. Go no contact and block her. If you are ready, get on some dating apps to meet girls.

 

It wasn't long distance but we are from different cities and we are studying in the same college/university. Our relationship wasn't that good in the last few months and she just sent me a message that wanted to break up. From nowhere. At first I didn't understand why the sudden decision but we never talked face to face, she always refused at first. Then, she just told me we could be friends but she didn't want to be in a relationship. I tried to talk with her but she never gave me an answer. I guess she either never loved me or was fed up.

[Doc Blaze]

Kind of what im going through. I suggest you do things with friends to keep you busy but I would lay off on trying to seek out girls to date hook up with. That's from personal experience, I used to try force getting over my exes and I would end up feeling like crap , missing my ex even more the day after hooking up with someone too quickly. some people could do it but I couldn't.

[emptyeffort]

go no contact. cant be friends with your ex. its totally normal to be depressed, you can be lucky you didnt have that while in your finals. itll take a while to process and then heal and itll take even more time until you are ready for the dating game. you should do stuff with your friends but not under the premiss of finding someone new to screw. you need distraction.