How to get her back with good long term results

[hi2448]

Ok so long story short, Ive known this girl for a year, we started dating eight months ago and were really into each other. We were almost the same person per say in terms of ideology and personality. We are both at the same college and she is a year older than me (21 Im 20), and things were going really well between us, we were planning to do stuff together, having fun, etc. But then about two weeks ago she started hanging out with me less and less and then hit me with the "I just can't see us together" and "I want to explore other options". I know she wasn't cheating on me because I heard from her friends that she wasn't going out or doing anything. So about a week and a half ago she texted me that we were done, I was confused but I saw the signs coming. I still do not know why she had this change in her opinion of me all of a sudden when things were going really well between us (a month ago she told me she was almost in love with me). Just one day after she told me we were done she called me to tell her how her day was and how she switched majors, she also has texted me a couple times this week asking how I am. I really want to get back with her because she is the girl of my dreams, but what is the best way of doing so. Should I wait a little longer, how should I do it, what compelled her to want to leave me, and would she want me back? Thanks for the responses.

[moodindigo91]

You can't get someone back if they don't want to be with you. You are way too young anyway. Go explore other options, I wouldn't put much effort into this girl since she doesn't want to be with you. It sounds like she wants to be friends. Doesn't matter what compelled her to leave you, the fact is that she left you.

[Wiseman2]

Get out of the friendzone. Stop chatting with her and being demoted to male girlfriend. Either she's your gf or not. Tell her you need to go no contact.

 

"I want to explore other options" mean she has her sights set on someone else and wants a backup plan and to use you for the transition.

hit me with the "I just can't see us together" and "I want to explore other options". a week and a half ago she texted me that we were done