I kinda of regret telling him how I feel

[Keri123]

Hi All new to this site but I'm going out my mind here I've know this man for along time and very recently like couple of years ago I felt an attraction towards him and about a year or so ago we started talking more and flirting ect but other day I had saw him out in a pub and we chatted gave me 2 hugs and I kinda of told him how I felt the next day I basically said I loved seeing u and he says he like seeing me to which he normally says when I say it to him anyway told him I had feelings for him he says he's happy I like him he already Comessed before hand that he thinks I'm attractive and he likes me and I said I like u to I know I sudnt but I do i said I know we can't be nothing more then friends but I do have feeling for u he said I'm only human Confused as this man been flirting with me for ages he message me Friday and told me he was going out ect and I get that men are shy when it comes to feelings but I out my heart on the plate for this man and all he says was I'm only human he did say I happy I like him that's was good I said I can't message him anymore as I don't think it's the answer as I'm getting to involved with this man he says to me he understands thats it so wats ur thought on this guys

[Wiseman2]

Why can't you be more than friends? Do you work together? Do either of you have a gf/bf?

I know we can't be nothing more then friends

[Keri123]

Yew I'm married and nothing happened as I put my family first I've read so many of these post and ppl say why do u do it well I was cheated on so I wud never go that far if u know what I mean I'm trying to get this man out of my head but I can't my partner knows I have feelings for this man and I've said I still wanna be with him and kids obs but all.I needed to know what I was feeling was it mutual after he confessed that he thinks I'm attractive and likes me I kinda got what I was looking for I know we have a very special connection we keep being brought together but after I told him I had feelings for him and I got nothing bk I was devastated I know nothing can happen like but still wud of liked to know he is a man who doesnt show emotion I have cut contact off now so well c if I mean anythink to him cause he will contact me

[boltnrun]

My thoughts on this is that you want to have an affair with this man, but he wisely said no.

 

How does your husband feel about you trying to have an affair? Has he agreed to an open marriage?

[Keri123]

Spell checker lol anyways I joined this site cause I was woudering if anyone has had same situation and what they did to try and move on from it

[Keri123]

No he hasn't he doesn't know we talk he doesn't time me talking to anyone tbh but no harm init no I don't think I want to have an affair I don't know what I want but I anit gonna cheat he didn't actually say no just never said anythink he said he's happy I like him I've known him along time he's never had a partner so obs doesn't get much attention of ppl like i said I'm trying to move on from it we have had jokey txt but I anit txting mo more all I don't on the weekend is got upset about it I didn't ask to fall in love with 2 men never I anit that sort of person the thing is my partner and this man know each other aswell this is why it's hard I'm not gonna give up my marriage for this man as I don't wanna destroy friendship but I don't wanna loose him as a friend so that's why I'm seeking help to try and keep hI'm as a friend that's it

[Wiseman2]

Unfortunately having a married woman come onto him may have made him retreat altogether. He may not want a problem or that type of complication. It sounds like you are looking for validation outside of your marriage.

I'm married. after I told him I had feelings for him and I got nothing bk I was devastated

[boltnrun]

Yeah, he's friends with your husband too? Of course, if he's at all smart and a moral person he wouldn't involve himself in an affair with a married woman, who is married to his friend.

 

And really, you don't want to be "friends" with him. You're "devastated" that he didn't say he wants you. That isn't a "friendly" feeling.

 

If you really want to stay in your marriage, stay away from this other man.

[Keri123]

Yes maybe he is everything I want in a man and I cud of gave my marriage up plenty of times and I haven't and I sit one of those that want the best of both worlds yes I am married he knew that when he txt me and when he said he likes me he said before he be hurt if I didn't speak to him anymore so I know he cares just doesn't know how to show it and I very much respect him for the way he has dealt with it weather he hurt me or not just don't know what to do about it many ppl pm here can tell me I done wromg but I have tried and tried to shut this man out of my life but I see him every week we got close well not close close lol and I think I wud Like more but I anit gonna destroy my hubby and my kids life

[Keri123]

Maybe it was attention I wanted at first but he anit like any other man most men want one thing and I respect him for the way he is like I said I know it's wrong and I'm trying to move on from it but don't know how X

[boltnrun]

So, it's easy then.

 

Stop texting and stop seeing him.

[Keri123]

I see this man every week lol I can't get out of that that's why I deleted his number and not txt him anymore that's me done with that

[Keri123]

He's the first thing on my mind in the morning and last at night I have fell very deep for this man and prob never know if he felt the same I always say to him nice to c u today he says yes nice to see u to wats that about I honestly think he does like me alot he must do otherwise he wudnt be the way he is with me I said to him one morning as a joke as he said he was in bed i said u want company lol he says yes lol and says he best get up I said I'm only pulling ya leg which I was he said some part of him liked it so I know he's attracted to me but like I said I cut contact of now just not as easy as It sounds