My girlfriend says I'm the reason she cutsherself

[K422]

So one day we go to Walmart and I was walking around with my headphones in listen g to music while we shop. She would ask questions and we would talk throughout. When we leave to get on the school shuttle she says I'm inconsiderate for having my headphones in. I blow it off and tell her it's not that serious we get on the bus she starts a scene saying I'm not and other stuff. We text each other because I was like what you doing we're on the bus while she was caused a mini scene. I told her the my headphones were not that big of a deal and for her to chill out. We go back and forth and she says she wants to cut off my headphones and break my phone. I ignore her and don't text back because it's getting out of hand. We get off the bus and we were carrying her stuff that's the reason we went to Walmart btw for her. So I'm carry her like36 water bottle pack and she's cursing me out while I do that for her and I curse at her too we go back and forth and she gets in my face yelling so I drop her waters and tell her take it yourself because you're not about to yell at me while I do you a favor and carry this for you. I walk and then turn Around and pick it up for her and take it to her room. We were in silence the whole time then we get to her room I say I'm leaving and she starts crying yelling why did I just drop her stuff like she's nobody and tells me to fight her she's pushing me and I go to leave she follows me and continues. I grabbed her arms shook her and told her to stop I'm about to get out the door and she's saying are you just going to leave and stuff along that line I say look you're trying to fight me and she runs off to her room. I chase after her but she closes the door. I leave and the next day I ask for space. Ling story short she cut herself and that night almost overdosed on pills, the hospital pumped her stomach. The following days I offer to take her to the therapist on campus to talk to and she agrees but doesn't really want to go. I didn't know this but she took more pills before we went to the therapist and still has suicidal thoughts. The therapist calls the police to take her to the hospital again. I go and they say they have to put her in physch ward for mental issues shes been diagnosed. My parents thought it would be best to distance myself and over the phone idk how it led to this because I didn't want to do it over the phone but we broke up via me. She came out a few days later still having those thoughts trying to kill herself. I was going back and forth with being with her and not being with her so I was being wishy washy and playing with her emotions. Not purposely though she continued to cut herself with words like worthless and idiot and said it was because of me and fast forward to recently. We aren't together but I took her on a casual date. It was kind of stupid because I paid for everything like a regular date. I got wine pasta for both of us and Uber and we went bowling. During the Uber rides and the whole date her friend and her got into a text message argument that she paid attention to more than the date the whole date she was on her phone texting and being upset even though I asked for her to turn off her phone or pay less attention to someone ringing your mood. I was annoyed and when we get back to her room she also lives with the friend and tried to fight her by banging on her door and yelling when the friend isn't even there. After she calms down I leave she tels me she was sorry and other stuff about that's how she is and I suggested she could if handled it differently. She asks if we were gonna go out again I told her no because I'm not feeling it she asks why and says she'll leave me alone I respond with that's fine. She got upset ibdont give her a reason and I responded with you know why. She tells me I make her feel like a bad person and she should kill herself because she's such a bad person. Fast forward to today- she needed to see the therapist and she uses my car rental account to drive there and pays me back after. This week I had to go in a trip so instead of her paying me afterwards I wanted the money when I give her the keys so it doesn't inconvenience me to wait for the money to get back to me while I'm on my trip. It was around $30 and she called me selfish and not a friend or decent person or have common sense because I wanted the money first. She also said I'm the reason she wants to kill herself and prays to God I don't make other Ppl feel the same. I want a honest opinion and I all she says?

[Wiseman2]

Does she live with her parents? The two of you are in a violent horrible relationship and should not see each other.

 

No matter how much a girl is annoying you, you don't "grab and shake" them. You leave the situation immediately. Next time she'll tell the doctors/police you did something like that and they'll arrest you. Stay Away From Her!

 

She on the other hand is blaming you for stuff she does anyway to deal with her problems. She has too many problems to be in a relationship.

 

Agree with your parents...get away from her, leave her alone, go no contact, avoid her, ignore her and block her. Let her parents and doctors, hospitals, therapists deal with all this.

I grabbed her arms shook her and told her to stop . she cut herself and that night almost overdosed on pills, the hospital pumped her stomach. she took more pills before we went to the therapist and still has suicidal thoughts. The therapist calls the police to take her to the hospital again. I go and they say they have to put her in physch ward for mental issues shes been diagnosed. My parents thought it would be best to distance myself.

[abitbroken]

Yes, its really rude to walk around a store with someone with one's headphones on, even if you can hear them. That's being a jerk.

 

But as far as the other stuff goes, you didn't "make" her cut herself. Actually, you need to distance yourself from her because your presence is not helping her get better. Stop communicating. Stop getting rental cars for her. She belongs in a treatment facility, but if not, she belongs at home with her parents and in therapy.

[ThatwasThen]

Agree with the above: Yes it is rude to have on headphones while you are out with someone and No, you do not get into it with someone to the point that it becomes physical in anyway.

Ling story short she cut herself and that night almost overdosed on pills, the hospital pumped her stomach. The following days I offer to take her to the therapist on campus to talk to and she agrees but doesn't really want to go.

You've guided her to the right place and now its time for her to look after herself. If you think she's still a harm to herself then tell the school guidance counsellor and then be done with her. I agree with your parents, you can't fix her, you can't help her out of the cycle she is in and you deserve to be with someone that isn't with these issues that she has.

 

Walk away and do NOT feel guilty for doing so. You are NOT responsible for what she chooses to do to herself. Get away from her and this toxic "thing" you have with her.