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(There's a lot of stuff I'm unsure about in this situation.) (Here's the whole story though thus far.)

Basically. There's this girl I fell in love with during a college art class. She spoke to no one (As far as I know.) At first I figured it would be easier to just let it go, and that I was out of her league. (For Two reason, one I was a nerd and she didn't seem like one. Two, I'm rather weird, I'm panicky/ she/ nervous I guess you can say.) With that in mind I was talking to another classmate about this game and she just jumped in on the conversation. We started to play the game together (Online game) and now we've known each other for about a couple months. As far as I can tell we're on good terms, but here's the thing, I usually end up starting any conversation. Except on a few occasions, which include art compliments and critiques. If you remove that, there were two occasions where she actually started a conversation with me. I can't quite tell weather I bother her or not because of that. But I guess she's shy? Like I said, she never talks to anyone, (Unless spoken to.) Oh yes, also she stands right beside me in 6 of the seven-eight art classes we've had thus far. (We stand at our easels rather than sit at desks.) I stay in my one place out of comfort, but I coulda swore she used to be at a different easel originally. But then again, she also forgot that I texted her for a few days till I reminded her the next time we met.

 

But here's what's going on now. I invited her to come see a movie with me. I'm unsure how she sees it. Maybe as friends, maybe just to be nice, maybe she likes me. And I'm trying to decide should I tell her that I like her, or should I leave it alone and see what she does. On a different forum, someone told me to lean into her (A little during the movie to see if she leans towards me or straightens herself out.) Or hold her hand. But I feel like that's not quite the right way to figure out what she's thinking. I feel like hat's going too far, too fast. I dunno, what do you guys think?

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Excellent. Make sure you treat like a date, not a hang out. No don't blurt out ILY type stuff, just hold hands, smile, be confident, etc. Enjoy!

I invited her to come see a movie with me. I'm unsure how she sees it. Maybe as friends, maybe just to be nice, maybe she likes me.
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I wouldn't think about what she thinks right now. Did she accept? See if you guys have any rapport on your own outside of classes. Maybe you will go to the movies and there will be little conversation. Or maybe you will hit it off. If she can't hold a conversation with you one on one after all this time, then its not a lead worth pursuing. I am glad you asked her out because then you can get an idea of who she is a little better. If she goes back to not talking to you in class afterwards, does not say she had a good time and would like to do something again - well, you went out to a movie. And no harm done.

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Movies are lousy for a first date (or trying for a first date) since there is little time for conversation to establish something. Suggest coffee or dessert after the movie so there is a chance to chat for a while in person. You may find her exhausting to be with if she is as quiet as you describe which would take a lot of energy to drag out a conversation. That gets old quick. (Been there).

 

She does not sound like someone who will respond well to the "lean" in suggestion. If you go somewhere after the movie and you both click well, that can lead into moving forward to meeting again.

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See what happens, and influence that future. You're over-thinking, over-analyzing this. If you want to know what another person thinks, you have to ask her. Most outings don't become dates; most dates don't lead to relationships. Most relationships (other than those with parents and siblings) end before death do us part.

 

One film does not lead to grandchildren and shopping for a retirement home together, not very often.

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