Colt191 Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 Hi, I broke up with my girlfriend a week ago. I want to start making new friends due to the ones I have not being the best right now and constantly trying to get high and spending all their money on that while I'm having to pitch in more than I should for food we get and all that. I'm not going back to those kind of friends after this break up, it's time for me to take a large step forward. I heard a lot of people have had success on tinder or other apps towards making new friends. The only thing is my ex girlfriend has friends on there and I feel like if she were to find out I'd get on those sites so quickly after I broke up with her, it would hurt her a lot. So I don't want to rub salt in the wound or hurt her anymore than I already have. When is a good time to get these apps and just start socializing? Thank you. Link to comment
Andrina Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 If you don't want to meet people who don't do drugs, try joining activity groups where people normally are devoted to activities where healthy bodies are important: A co-ed or all male sports team like soccer or rugby or softball or bowling. On meetups.com, you can find local activity groups who get together for bicycling, hiking, attending local festivals, etc. Good for you for making a better goal for yourself. Link to comment
notalady Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 I don't think tinder is a good place to meet friends, it's more for hookups. I would try meet up.com, tons of activity groups and social groups where you can meet a big range of people. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 Tinder is a dating app, not intended for "friends". Don't you have fb or real life friends? Get on any dating apps you want, POF, OKC, Tinder, whatever, if you broke up who cares what she or her friends see, it's your life. Also, go no contact and block her AND her friends.Hi, I broke up with my girlfriend a week ago. I heard a lot of people have had success on tinder or other apps towards making new friends. Link to comment
DancingFool Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 Dating apps are for dating, NOT for making friends or general socializing. If you want to clean up your life and meet different kinds of people and make friends, join meetup.com and sign up for different groups, hobbies, sports, etc. Whatever truly interests you. Go, participate, you will meet people you click with and eventually you'll become friends with them. If meetup.com is not available where you live, again look up local sports leagues, hiking, biking clubs, other hobby things or volunteer for things. That's how you meet different kinds of people and when you choose to do stuff that interests you, you are liable to meet like minded people that you will connect with. Link to comment
j.man Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 Yeah I'm not sure where you're getting the idea Tinder is good for friends. Loved the app when I had it before, but I wasn't looking for basketball buddies on it. Unless you're talking about "friends" being code for "I just wanna hook up" or "I'm just here for the attention." Meetup is a good one for just all around meeting people and doing fun ****. Back when I had a couple minutes of free time in a week, I used it a lot here in NYC. Link to comment
Colt191 Posted October 31, 2016 Author Share Posted October 31, 2016 Awesome guys thank I appreciate it! I've never actually even heard of meetup.com, but it sounds great. Yeah a couple people I know use Tinder for the friend part, but it seemed odd to me too. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 Is this for same sex relationships and/or friendships?Yeah a couple people I know use Tinder for the friend part, but it seemed odd to me too. Link to comment
Colt191 Posted October 31, 2016 Author Share Posted October 31, 2016 Is this for same sex relationships and/or friendships? Mainly friendships, they would put on the tinder "looking for friends only". To be honest though I feel like they were on there just for the attention of guys or whatever it may be. My guy friends used it for hooking up while most of my friends that are girls used it for friendships. Thought I'd try the friendship route out and see how that goes! Link to comment
DancingFool Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 Mainly friendships, they would put on the tinder "looking for friends only". To be honest though I feel like they were on there just for the attention of guys or whatever it may be. My guy friends used it for hooking up while most of my friends that are girls used it for friendships. Thought I'd try the friendship route out and see how that goes! Finding good quality people and developing healthy genuine friendships that way.....you have a better chance of winning the lottery. Also, you say that you are trying to get away from these friends and find better quality friendships.... How will you ever accomplish that if you keep fishing in the same stinky pond filled with rotten fish? Go find new ponds if you are serious and that means getting away from bad examples your current friends are providing. Link to comment
Colt191 Posted October 31, 2016 Author Share Posted October 31, 2016 Finding good quality people and developing healthy genuine friendships that way.....you have a better chance of winning the lottery. Also, you say that you are trying to get away from these friends and find better quality friendships.... How will you ever accomplish that if you keep fishing in the same stinky pond filled with rotten fish? Go find new ponds if you are serious and that means getting away from bad examples your current friends are providing. Ohh gotchya. Yeah it makes sense considering all that I've heard about the app. Thank you guys, this is the best site to go to for advice and help. Signing up for meetup.com right now! Link to comment
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