Unanswered FaceTime from Ex should I text back

[EthanM]

Hi, the title pretty much says it all, but I will explain a bit more...

 

I was driving in the car today with three friends and I received a FaceTime call from my ex. The thing is that it was sent from her MacBook. I didn't pick up because I was driving, but I saw it and it rang for a few seconds and ended. I was completely shocked. I haven't heard from her since August, which is when she said she would never call me again. She also unfollowed me on Instagram, but has left me following her (meaning she hasn't blocked me). My friends have said she did that cause she still wants me to see what she's up to and how much fun she's having. I dunno if that's true or not, but I can see that making sense. Anyways, do you think it was an accidental dial? I don't own a Mac, so I'm not sure how you go about facetiming someone. Is it easy to accidentally FaceTime the wrong person on a laptop? I know how it is on my iPhone.

 

I want to text her tomorrow and just say,"hey, I missed your FaceTime yesterday. I wasn't able to get back to you right away, but what's up?"

 

I've asked my three friends that were with me and they all said not to text or call her back. What say you all?

 

Im kind of dying to see if it was accidental or not...and if not, why did she call and hang up? Part of me says if she really wants to talk to me, she will. But I know her and a part of me says that she would call and hang up to test the waters to get me to call or text her back. For example, she could never come out and call me when she was crushing on me...she would always find some dumb excuse as a cover.

[gp11a]

I don't think you should contact her. If she was really trying to contact you, she would get the message to you somehow!

 

Calling you to test the waters so you would call/txt her back...? Things shouldn't be like that now. I don't know your history, I am assuming she broke up with you (not sure how long ago), but that is unfair for her to play those games now if that was the case.

 

Plus, who would FaceTime out of the blue like that? And from her laptop? Why not a phone call, text message, or email? Part of thinks it was just an accident. I don't think you should think on this and try to make sense of it.

 

In the end, I think you are better off doing nothing and keep going on as usual.

[Capricorn3]

I've asked my three friends that were with me and they all said not to text or call her back. What say you all?.

I say listen to your friends. They know you. They know her. They know the circumstances. Trust them. DON'T call back.

[EthanM]

it ended mutually. She wanted to call it off and I agreed because i wasn't feeling it anymore. I wanted a relationship and she didn't. It was kind of bad and then a few days later we talked and I tried to get her back, but it didn't work. She said she didn't love me. But she wanted to be friends. I told her that I would struggle with that. I agreed. But then she kept calling me and wanted the same amount of my time and attention that she was getting before. I refused to be an emotional crutch for her and began to distance myself. We were going to meet up and then she canceled on me at the last minute. She said it wasn't a good idea and I was like, ok. I told her to just call me back when she felt comfortable and ok with me. Well, a few hours later she is calling me and asking for help with something. I refused to fall into her game and told her again to give it a week or so for her to think over. She said she would never call me again. That was that until today. That was like a two and a half month gap.

 

My friends know our situation and know that she did play a lot of games with me. So I know they want me to move on.

 

Im doing good with the ladies and even have a steady FBuddy. But at the end of the day, what I felt for her still is burning a bit in me, so I feel like I need to know. It's safe to say that if I could be assured that she would give it an honest go...I would dead everything else for her. I'm lost right now.

[Capricorn3]

it ended mutually. She wanted to call it off and I agreed because i wasn't feeling it anymore. I wanted a relationship and she didn't. It was kind of bad and then a few days later we talked and I tried to get her back, but it didn't work. She said she didn't love me. But she wanted to be friends. I told her that I would struggle with that. I agreed. But then she kept calling me and wanted the same amount of my time and attention that she was getting before. I refused to be an emotional crutch for her and began to distance myself. We were going to meet up and then she canceled on me at the last minute. She said it wasn't a good idea and I was like, ok. I told her to just call me back when she felt comfortable and ok with me. Well, a few hours later she is calling me and asking for help with something. I refused to fall into her game and told her again to give it a week or so for her to think over. She said she would never call me again. That was that until today. That was like a two and a half month gap.

 

My friends know our situation and know that she did play a lot of games with me. So I know they want me to move on..

After reading all of the above I can't imagine why on earth you would want to contact her again. She plays games and messes you around. Listen to your friends.

 

That said, no doubt you'll do what you want to do, but be prepared for more hurt and you'll only have yourself to blame. It's on you.

[pippy longstocking]

I know I would lol ....no matter how much I spout doing the right thing on here ...curiosity would kill my longstockings

[zeino]

Imagine this wasn't accidental. If someone says they would never call you back (which is a strong statement) and then offer you two-seconds of dialling, that classifies as a "crumble". If you rush into this to see what it was, it shows to the person that crumbles activate you. With a 180 degree turn like this, it is them who owe you some words to initiate a convo. And then you decide whether there is something worthy in those words or it's gameplaying. She needs to take responsibility of her actions and what comes out of her mouth and you need to act with your self-worth translated into action. Until actions from someone (whether they are testing waters or are used to doing too little for you because you have always compensated for them) matches the degree you value yourself, there is no need to waste one minute thinking about someone else's motives. When we are used to thinking in ways that atribute "meaning" to human actions, we often skip an important categıry I think. The category of "meaningless" actions. To me, this action is "meaningless" or hasn't revealed its meaning yet. (Maybe she wants to marry you, maybe her friend's child was playing with her device. It's not your responsibility to uncover these truths which are not so difficult to clarify if someone wants to make sense really). If she expects you to call back immediately after hearing what she said in August, that is a bit entitled. She kicked you out of her world and of course her words also meant I don't want you to call me (who calls a person who said they would never call you again.) Two second of beep beep is not good enough to change it. And she can put more effort if she wants to be meaningful. I would say don't respond to anything that is openly, clearly meaningful. What the hell is two beep beeps. Even roadrunner says that

[Sportster2005]

I would be curious also. But there is more important things in life. This doesn't sound like someone who woke up and realized they made a big mistake. She sounds more like a flake. Personally I would block all contact from her. Problem solved. She had her chance.

[Wiseman2]

I like this theory. I'll vote for it! her friend's child was playing with her device.

[EthanM]

Soooo...I simply texted and said, hey I saw a missed FaceTime from you yesterday and what's up? Not exactly like that but basically. She wrote back a few minutes later and said it was an accident and that she was sorry and that she didn't realize she did that but thanked me for checking. Lol.

 

Curiosity over... Simple.

[pippy longstocking]

Soooo...I simply texted and said, hey I saw a missed FaceTime from you yesterday and what's up? Not exactly like that but basically. She wrote back a few minutes later and said it was an accident and that she was sorry and that she didn't realize she did that but thanked me for checking. Lol.

 

Curiosity over... Simple.

 

I am glad you asked her darling ...it is usually as simple as that but a mistake like that ..well it has people wondering, guessing , getting their hopes raised , no matter what anyone says ....so really glad you got a full stop next to it and your head can stop wondering .

[pippy longstocking]

I would be curious also. But there is more important things in life. This doesn't sound like someone who woke up and realized they made a big mistake. She sounds more like a flake. Personally I would block all contact from her. Problem solved. She had her chance.

 

yes and now do what sporty longstocking said .....block her so it can never happen again

[EthanM]

Yeah, I got what I needed. I've been mentally done with her for some time now. However, there was a bit of me that was still emotionally attached. I think this call deaded everything. I have better options and I'm happy.

[EthanM]

Btw... Thank you for the words everyone. Best site ever