Girl friend goes on trip without saying anything

[tsj710104]

So my girl friend of nine months. Texts me yesterday morning telling me she is on her way out of state to visit friends. Which came as a surprise to me since we spoke on the phone the night before and she did not mention anything about going on a trip. I know we are only dating and not engaged or anything but this seems odd to me. Would like to hear anyone else's opinion on this.

[Wolfshook]

Which part seems weird to you? Does she go with her male "friend"?

 

What is suspicious to you?

[Wiseman2]

Is this a LDR? Do you know about these friends? Is this something she does regularly?

Texts me yesterday morning telling me she is on her way out of state to visit friends. Which came as a surprise to me since we spoke on the phone the night before and she did not mention anything about going on a trip.

[ThatwasThen]

What else did she text to you about the trip? Did you not ask her any details or did she simply text that she was going out of town and then went radio silent?

[katrina1980]

So my girl friend of nine months. Texts me yesterday morning telling me she is on her way out of state to visit friends. Which came as a surprise to me since we spoke on the phone the night before and she did not mention anything about going on a trip. I know we are only dating and not engaged or anything but this seems odd to me. Would like to hear anyone else's opinion on this.

 

Maybe it was spontaneous and she did not know when you spoke with her the night before.

 

I often do things spontaneously like that.

 

I recall on a Thursday I decided to fly to Florida on Friday for a week with a gf! I lived in New York at the time.

 

I was dating a man at the time, and he told me to have fun and take lots of pics!!

 

Do you really need her to "check in" with you before she does something?

 

OR are you the type to give her the third degree?

 

If so perhaps she didn't tell you as she didn't want to deal with your questions (suspicions?)

 

It's impossible to know for sure, why don't you ask her?

[DancingFool]

Not enough information....

 

Is this something she does regularly? Total spur of the moment spontaneous thing? She mentioned but you forgot? She thought she mentioned but didn't?

What's odd to you?

[RainyCoast]

you've been "dating only" for nine months. how much do you share? and seconding, is it an ldr?

[Andytheman]

You've got to be kidding. This does NOT pass the smell test. Drop any presence of the 'relationship' and move on to a girl who treats you better.

[Andytheman]

Should read "pretence".

 

 

[mustlovedogs]

This seems weird to me. At 9 months, it seems normal to share big life events... Like trips.

[moodindigo91]

Well, how far is the trip? You say she's driving to another state to visit friends, for me (I live in Southern California) driving to another state or even another country (Mexico) is no more than a few hours of driving. If she were going on an epic road trip or something and never told you about it, I'd be more concerned. If she's just driving a few hours to see her friends, it might have been spontaneous. I'd casually ask why she didn't mention it to you last night, but I wouldn't make a big deal about it.

 

Unless she does this often?

[RainyCoast]

Well, how far is the trip?

that's a good point. in europe, we might not bother announcing going for a four hour drive. but it might land us several states away. it's happened to me, and i was just going for a cuppa. you miss an exit or two and suddenly notice the weird language on the road signs.

 

where was she going? How long did she stay? if it was just spending a fun day someplace (some state, some place, a day's trip is just a day's trip), especially spontaneously, i don't see a problem with it.

[Edmund Exley]

What makes me think she avoided telling you before hand because she was afraid it would be a hassle and argument?

[RainyCoast]

ah, the goode olde threads: long distance. she had taken a trip to yellowstone with a guy in august.

[Wiseman2]

It sounds like a lot of communication problems going on and as though she wanted to hit the road with these friends and told you last minute so there would be not a fuss or objection, since there was an issue with this trip recently 710104;6627710]But she did make time to go to Yellowstone park for 3 days after Labor Day with a man she says is "just a guy" and only a friend. But she did not elaborate any more. I also think one of her girlfriends is also going. She did not invite me even though she knows i have those days off from work. And we could have met up at Yellowstone.

[pippy longstocking]

yeah this might give a bit more ...

 

I have been in a long distance relationship ship with a woman for 6 months. Things seemed to be going great up until we got back from a road trip to Minnesota to see some her family and my family. We both said we loved each other. But since the trip she calls less, texts less with shorter texts, takes longer to reply back. But she still sends me letters and cards in the mail. And the last card she said she loved me. But she did not ask for time off to come see me on my birthday in a couple of days. Although she has sent me 3 birthday cards. But she did make time to go to Yellowstone park for 3 days after Labor Day with a man she says is "just a guy" and only a friend. But she did not elaborate any more. I also think one of her girlfriends is also going. She did not invite me even though she knows i have those days off from work. And we could have met up at Yellowstone. A co-worker I trust says to trust her and that it probably is just a friend. What do you think? Any advice will be much appreciated.

[catfeeder]

Your previous thread said this is long distance. So it's not as though she blew off plans with you to do this. She likely received an invitation in the morning and took it.