Mack1990 Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 Hi there. So about a few months ago, my girlfriend of about a year and a half broke up with me, a third time, yes, third time. The second time she broke up with me, a month later out of the blue, she texts me saying "I really miss you, it's been almost a month". Then she said she wants to come to my house to talk, she comes and asks for me back, and I took her back because I loved her. Afterwards, she would always tell me that she loves me, and she wants us to work out, and that she would compromise on her part to make us work out. A month after that, she told me that she wants me to come to her house to talk, I told her I was nervous and she said for me not to be nervous. I go to her house, only to have her break up with me again. A few weeks ago she texted me saying she wants to give me the things I gave to her back, and mind you she did this exact same thing after the second time she broke up with me, and I told her I don't want the stuff back. Then she told me she'll leave them in my driveway, and I said no, j don't want her at my house. I have since cut contact with her because she has hurt me several times, and I'm still healing from it. I blocked her number and blocked her from Facebook, don't really care to ever see her again after all the pain she caused me. I gotta ask, is there any women out there who have done this to another man? Because I need to know exactly what goes on in a woman's mind when she does this. It's a mystery to me why she would do this. Thanks in advance. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 On/off situations usually mean someone else is in their sights, there are ongoing unresolved incompatibilities and conflicts and at the same time they miss each other or sex or a relationship only to realize it's back to the same pattern. I need to know exactly what goes on in a woman's mind when she does this. It's a mystery to me why she would do this. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 What the heck is going on in your mind to take back someone who has dumped you once but not twice. Fooled twice ... shame on you! Link to comment
Mack1990 Posted October 26, 2016 Author Share Posted October 26, 2016 What the heck is going on in your mind to take back someone who has dumped you once but not twice. Fooled twice ... shame on you! You think I don't realize that? Thanks for rubbing it in. Like I said, I was fooled, and it was a mistake on my part. Link to comment
Edmund Exley Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 You think I don't realize that? Thanks for rubbing it in. Like I said, I was fooled, and it was a mistake on my part It doesn't matter whats going on in her mind. What matters is what you are willing to accept. Find your self esteem and close the door on her for good. Link to comment
islander Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 This situation is not what goes on in a woman's mind but just what is going on in hers lol. It appears as though she knows just what she can get away with with you and has been using that to her advantage to string you along. I really hope you don't go back and you are able to move on. Link to comment
Mack1990 Posted October 27, 2016 Author Share Posted October 27, 2016 It's hard for me everyday. Now I get really angry at her for what she's put me through. I try so hard not to think about her, but every day is a challenge for me and now I feel lost and alone. I don't want to contact her again, and I told her to get out of my life, I just still think about it every day when I know I shouldn't. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted October 27, 2016 Share Posted October 27, 2016 I think this is more about what is going on in YOUR mind, not hers. This says more about you, than her (imo). "Now I get really angry at her for what she's put me through." ..... You had the power, and the choice, to either stay, or leave. She treated you badly, broke up with you twice, and you chose to go back for more. That's on you. People treat you the way you allow them to. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted October 27, 2016 Share Posted October 27, 2016 You think I don't realize that? Thanks for rubbing it in. Like I said, I was fooled, and it was a mistake on my part. Hmm, well no. I don't think you get it. You're talking about being angry about all that she's put you through. But you CHOSE to be with this woman despite multiple break ups. So you are equally responsible for your own pain. Link to comment
Mack1990 Posted October 27, 2016 Author Share Posted October 27, 2016 Hmm, well no. I don't think you get it. You're talking about being angry about all that she's put you through. But you CHOSE to be with this woman despite multiple break ups. So you are equally responsible for your own pain. You are exactly correct. I'll admit it. I made a mistake for giving her another chance. I should not have done that. The reason I gave her another chance was because I loved her, and I thought she loved me too, and it felt so good knowing at the time that she wanted to be with me. But since she did this a third time to me I decided to cut all ties with her because she caused me pain. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted October 27, 2016 Share Posted October 27, 2016 It's good you did this and despite the hurt, finally said "no more!". Sometimes it hurts more, not because they were so great but because we invested so much. since she did this a third time to me I decided to cut all ties with her because she caused me pain. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted October 28, 2016 Share Posted October 28, 2016 You are exactly correct. I'll admit it. I made a mistake for giving her another chance. I should not have done that. The reason I gave her another chance was because I loved her, and I thought she loved me too, and it felt so good knowing at the time that she wanted to be with me. But since she did this a third time to me I decided to cut all ties with her because she caused me pain. Well congrats on cutting her off. You are going to jump start your healing by cutting her off. Link to comment
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