ex is being confusing

[lucky96]

So this isn't even half of it but i am summarizing.

my ex and I were very close. we loved each other and had plans for the future. he was waiting till i was in a better situation to move in together (my choice) and he lived with his older sister and was working to save money for us. we were together for almost a year but towards the end we were fighting a lot. he broke up with me a few months ago but says he stills loves me and wants to visit and is hopeful for the future. he has not been with anyone else, texts me almost every day, and gets jealous if i am with someone else. I miss him and love him and eventually if he does come back, i would be afraid he would leave again.

 

is he just playing games with me to keep me from meeting someone before him or does he really want to be with me?

[Wiseman2]

Was this a LDR? What was the hold up about moving in with him? Did the arguments involve that or being long distance? What does he text about everyday?

he was waiting till i was in a better situation to move in together. he broke up with me a few months ago but says he stills loves me and wants to visit and is hopeful for the future

[lucky96]

we met in school, he graduated before me and i was finishing up schooling. no arguments involved long distance other than me being insecure about it, and we just bs everyday or talk about random things, he skypped me the other night to just because

[Wiseman2]

Why did he break up if he still communicates all the time and claims there's hope for the future and he'll visit you?

no arguments involved long distance other than me being insecure about it, and we just bs everyday or talk about random things, he skypped me the other night to just because

[HeartGoesOn]

It appears he wants to run the show on his own terms, and it seems to be working. If he still loved you, he would fight tooth and nail rather than risk losing you to someone else. However, and not to sound rude but you're giving him permission to do just that, which is to have you accept his crumbs at his leisure.

 

It's your call, but I would call his bluff and stand up for myself, as he's a free agent while he has you under lock and key.

[lucky96]

i have no clue why he broke up if he still talks be honest, its very annoying

[HeartGoesOn]

I miss him and love him and eventually if he does come back, i would be afraid he would leave again.

 

And that would be the likely conclusion, (imo). In addition to that, he knows he can crawl back in, again, on his terms. Either way, my guess is if you raise your standards, you may be able to view this in an entirely different light.

[lucky96]

i mean i have fairly high standards (contrary to my post haha)

he has made a few comments about hoping in the future or you never know, and i have made comments to him that i will not be the next girl he dates and we won't be getting back together, he knows that if he asked right now i would say no, its just a really messy situation

we both like talking to each other and flirting, but he knows he doesn't fully have me, i mean i have kissed other people since we broke up

i just don't know if i have him or where i am in his life, he refuses to kiss other people, he isn't out looking, he barely goes out in general

 

its just really messed up, i have tried just discussing it with him many times but we get no where because both of us love each other we just don't want to be together right now

 

so im not sure what solution there could be

[Wiseman2]

In this case no contact may be a good idea to step back and clear your head.

i have tried just discussing it with him many times but we get no where because both of us love each other we just don't want to be together right now