Was it stupid to unblock him?

[Mira223]

I don't know where to put this topic so i just decided to post it here. There's this guy who fell in love with me long ago. I didn't have anything to give him and I told him that this thing can't be. It ended up with me cutting all ties with him because he was putting so much pressure on me and it was getting was too uncomfortable. I thought this is the best way for him to move on. 9 months later, he asked my friends about me and told one of them that he wants to say hi if I may just unblock him. I unblocked him and we had a little sweet catching up chat and I was truly glad to hear from him. Now I feel terrible, he was really happy we talked, like really happy. He made it clear that he just wants us to be friends and that he wants nothing more and I did the same. But I just feel so selfish and guilty, maybe I shouldn't have unblocked him. Maybe we would be better off like that. It's like I was drunk and now am coming to realise that. I truly appreciate this person and I would love to have him as a friend in my life but I don't know if that's really possible or not. Do you think he really moved on? Was it a bad idea to unblock him? Please tell me that's it's fine and that he moved on and that it wasn't the stupidest most selfish thing of all to unblock him

[j.man]

Are you short on friends? I don't see it being worth the potential drama of him catching feelings again (assuming he hasn't lost them). The tone of your post actually makes it sound like he was just a friend before and fell in love with you. If so, you're just setting yourself up for the encore.

[mustlovedogs]

It sounds like you were clear with your intentions, so I don't think you did anything bad. However, I would assume he will re-enter in to your life and you have to decide to what capacity you're ok with that. Make sure you are not flirty or leading him on, and at the first sign of him getting flirty, you put a stop to it. If he continues, tell him you're sorry but you'll have to distance yourself from him again.

[richardwright]

Don't be so hard on yourself. Don't worry about it. If you struggle with boundaries, then block him. You are not selfish, you're human.

[SherrySher]

I am not really understanding this situation to be honest, or maybe it just seems a whole lot of drama for no reason.

He fell in love with you, you did not and moved on. Easy enough, so why open the door again and make this person suffer it out some more? It's not really nice.

[Mira223]

Are you short on friends? I don't see it being worth the potential drama of him catching feelings again (assuming he hasn't lost them). The tone of your post actually makes it sound like he was just a friend before and fell in love with you. If so, you're just setting yourself up for the encore.

 

I know and you're right. It was a stupid thingto do that and I still don't know how I did that.

[Mira223]

That makes total sense and I couldn't agree more. It's what I would think whenever he tried to talk to me again. I don't know what was the wrong with me last night and why the hell did I do that.

[Mira223]

I am not really understanding this situation to be honest, or maybe it just seems a whole lot of drama for no reason.

He fell in love with you, you did not and moved on. Easy enough, so why open the door again and make this person suffer it out some more? It's not really nice.

 

That makes total sense and I couldn't agree more. It's what I would think whenever he tried to talk to me again. I don't know what was the wrong with me last night and why the hell did I do that.