After Breaking No Contact and it Fails

[Steve4456]

I was doing "No Contact" for about 6 months. Random things done by ex recently lead to me sending her a message. My msg was simple and sweet. I got a bland response from her a week later, I then replied to her, and then she blocked me. Now I'm just blah.

 

I wanted to ask for some advice or ideas. I still have feelings for her and want to do something to salvage whatever is there (if anything). Has anyone gone through a similar situation and successfully fixed things in the end? Or do you have any suggestions on what I can try or do?

 

My last resort is to resume no contact and not fall for anything that could lead me to breaking it this time. But, the key words here being "last resort"

[kbbcoop77]

A bland response after a week and then she's blocked you? Dude, it's over. NC to heal

[katrina1980]

First off I am so sorry..

 

Honestly, the only thing you can do is try and move on and forget her.

 

Stay really busy, go out with friends, date other girls.

 

Showing her you have truly moved on *may* spark something in her and cause her to re-think ... but DON'T do it for that reason, do it for YOU cause you really need to just move on, you know?

 

Go no contact again and stop reading her *stuff*. On social media, etc.

 

Reading it only keeps you stuck and prevents you from moving on.

 

I know that is not the answer you wanted, but it really is the only way and your only choice.

 

Time heals.

[Jeffbobo]

Make that "last resort" your first and only option. In addition, totally remove her and anything that reminds you of her from your life. Phone number? Blocked. Social media? Blocked. Pictures? Memorabilia? Boxed or trashed. Treat her like an addiction and go cold turkey on her arse. Out of sight, eventually out of mind and the feelings will fade.

[katrina1980]

Make that "last resort" your first and only option. In addition, totally remove her and anything that reminds you of her from your life. Phone number? Blocked. Social media? Blocked. Pictures? Memorabilia? Boxed or trashed. Treat her like an addiction and go cold turkey on her arse. Out of sight, eventually out of mind and the feelings will fade.

 

Good advice... and is precisely what I did when my ex and I broke up... and now ten months later, I have completely moved on and dating a new guy I really like!

 

Ours was a long term relationship too, six years.

 

It can be done but it takes resolve in wanting to move on and get on with your life!

[reinventmyself]

Well, if there is any good that came out of this, maybe this will motivate you let go and finally move on.

Im.sorry. It must hurt all over again

No more looking back!

[Steve4456]

Thanks everyone. I appreciate the help/suggestions.

 

Based on your comments, it seems like this is it huh? Nothing I can say or do at this point. 4 year relationship, 6 months of no contact, and I still want her back.

 

FML

[boltnrun]

What are you doing differently from 6 months ago?

[greta96]

Thanks everyone. I appreciate the help/suggestions.

 

Based on your comments, it seems like this is it huh? Nothing I can say or do at this point. 4 year relationship, 6 months of no contact, and I still want her back.

 

FML

 

Sometimes it takes a bit longer to get over someone, it's natural. Unfortunately it sounds like she has moved on and has no intentions of getting back together, so now you need to switch directions and do the NC for yourself, to heal, not in order to try and get her back.

Like Jeffbobo said, it's time to erase her from your life completely, so that you don't have to see or hear about her anymore; if you delete her phone number from your phone, even if you have it memorized you will forget it, in time. As impossible as it may seem right now, you will move past this, and you will love again. And the first step towards making this happen is by looking at the old relationship as something done and over with, and not something that can be revived. It's in the past, now you have the future to look forward to.

[Wiseman2]

Unfortunately it takes two to be in a relationship, but only one to end it. Her blocking you after your contact is a clear sign that she's moved on and so should you.

 

At 6 mos you should not be pining and instead be putting your energy into dating apps and meeting interested local women. LDRs are hard and she's obviously done with that. Stop all attempts at contact, that's harassing her.

I was doing "No Contact" for about 6 months. I got a bland response from her a week later, I then replied to her, and then she blocked me. Now I'm just blah.

[Steve4456]

You guys are right. I had blocked her on everything 6 months ago. Unfortunately, I didn't think about blocking on things like LinkedIn or even knew that Instagram still lets you view a blocker users comments, etc. etc. She knew how to get my attention and it worked.

 

I think I feel extra blah because it just seems baiting someone is a rather evil thing to do.

 

Oh well. Everyone here is in agreement, she's moved on. I need to as well.

 

Thanks again for help/advice

[katrina1980]

You guys are right. I had blocked her on everything 6 months ago. Unfortunately, I didn't think about blocking on things like LinkedIn or even knew that Instagram still lets you view a blocker users comments, etc. etc. She knew how to get my attention and it worked.

 

I think I feel extra blah because it just seems baiting someone is a rather evil thing to do.

 

Just out of curiosity how was she baiting you?

 

How would she even know you still read/view her Linkedin and Instagram?

 

Could it be possible you simply read too much into her comments? Wishful thinking perhaps?

 

I dunno ... I know we women can be confusing at times, but I cannot fathom why she would intentionally bait you and then just ignore you and block you.

 

Make no sense, unless she is just an inherently cruel person.

 

In any event, yeah just block and delete and begin the healing process all over again.

 

Best of luck as you move forward!