Girl in love Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 I like a man from my previous work place. Who's single but much older than me. We became really great friends, but lately because of many reasons he keeps saying I should date a guy of my age and then he went off to UK for a week. So, i didn't whatsapp him either. But then he came just a day before my 25th birthday and started conversation, and asked me to meet him asap. Then we fixed a day and he sent his driver to pick me for dinner and he was waiting for me. He brought surprise birthday gift (my favorite french cheese delicacies) from UK. He even made me order our food. Eventually while talking and having meal, he told me what happened to him that week and why he was so irritated. Because he's leaving his job here and shifting to China. When I told him about a certain man at my previous work place (where he still works) had insulted me when my contact ended, he got really possessive. Besides, throughout the evening he was teasing a guy I dated once for kissing me on forehead and not attempting an actual kiss. I was very happy as we were together for almost 4hrs and let me tell you he's routined man. It took me by a surprise that he skipped gym and bed time to meet with me. However, he eventually again asked me to find a man of my age as he thinks I am too young to not date anyone. Then I directly asked him if you really want me to date other people then why did you do all these surprising me today, since he is single why can't we date each other. Then he said it's a birthday dinner for me and he thinks I should date a 25year old rather than him (who's going to be 48soon), and also he's leaving in December. Well, if that's why he doesn't wanna date then I am not sure why would he make me feel so special. Because I stopped talking to him few weeks before my 25th birthday this week. I am really heartbroken. I told him that I won't contact him in China unless he wants me to. But he should at least give it a try for this next 1.5months. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 He's being very honest and straight with you that he does not see anything happening between you two.I directly asked him if you really want me to date other people then why did you do all these surprising me today, since he is single why can't we date each other. I told him that I won't contact him in China unless he wants me to....same guy?... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Girl in love Posted October 18, 2016 Author Share Posted October 18, 2016 same guy?... ] It's the same guy. You know, I stopped every contact after you guys helped me. But he suddenly became the guy he was like before that awful week when he had to decide to leave this job and shift to China. Besides, you won't believe but he keeps sending me links to Chinese internships at same city. He even planned to accompany me to Sydney next year. He arranged a dream date for me and then all of a sudden this whole him with age gap and leaving thing came up. Why does he feel jealous when I talk about my ex and the guy who kissed on my forehead! Doesn't make any sense. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
surfdiva Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 I'm sorry but from this thread and the other one, it seems he's made it very clear he doesn't want to date you. I'd be confused also as to why he took you out for a nice dinner. In my opinion, since he knew you're interested in him I think he kinda lead you on by doing that. Since he's leaving in a couple of months, just forget him. I'm sure there are many men who'd like to date you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Girl in love Posted October 18, 2016 Author Share Posted October 18, 2016 I'm sure there are many men who'd like to date you. I have rejected 3 guys during this last 9months after starting to see him. It's not only tonight's dinner. He always makes me feel special. Whenever, anyone misbehaved with me in front of him, he always came to handle the matter for me. He keeps sending job links to China for me (in the same city where he is moving to). Idk why keeps saying age thing, when he does the exact opposite while we talk. I actually love him. Even a month and a half would make me feel less upset. He thinks it will be devastating for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 He sounds like a father figure you have grown over-attached to, does he have kids your age?Whenever, anyone misbehaved with me in front of him, he always came to handle the matter for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Girl in love Posted October 18, 2016 Author Share Posted October 18, 2016 He sounds like a father figure you have grown over-attached to, does he have kids your age? No, he doesn't have any kids or wife (he never married). Besides, we talk about hormones and sex! I really want to hangout as much as I can with him. But his indecisive behavior and this "age" issue bothers me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 we talk about hormones and sex! ] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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