Why does my ex ignore me all of a sudden and doesnt return my stuff back ?

[derin123]

So briefly, me and my ex were together for 6 years. We were madly in love and wanted to get married eventually. Btw i am 24 and he is 25. But because of some family issues from my side i had to break up with him which devastated us both. He tried to get me back at the beginning and for 1.5 years send me texts once in a while to get back together but i did not see much of an effort tbh. Sure he messaged me etc but we are in the same university and he could have come to talk to me at least. So it was just texting and calling nothing face to face. I didnt see him for 1.5 years although we are in the same uni. I know that he loved me and wanted me back and he was really depressed during that time. The last time he contacted me to get back was in May. He told me that he missed me and was so happy with me back in the days and that i should give him one more chance. He also send me a letter which he wrote when we broke up. I knew that my family wouldnt approve so i told him everything and cried alot as i loved him he did too but the other day found a new gf. After that day he completely ignored me and didnt response to my texts. I only wanted my stuff back thats why i texted him but he ignored them and even said leave me alone i have a gf. He changed overnight into another person. He wasnt like this before he really cared for me even though we werent together anymore but all of a sudden he began to ignore me. Whenever i see him at school he ignores me too. I keep on texting about my stuff but he deletes the message without reading it. I refuses to give me back my stuff. I told him tjat he could give it to a friend but no he ignores me completely. This week i gave him back his stuff along with a letter i wrote him last year with a friend, but no reaction as well. He and his new gf are together now for 5

months. The same date he last wrote me. He had also my name tattooed on his back and i know that it is still there. So i dont get why he changed completely and all of a sudden? Why doesnt he give me back my stuff? Did he already forget me after 6 years of relationship? Anyone please i need advice or i am going to get crazy overthinking all of this..

[Wiseman2]

Sounds like he gave up and moved on. Why did your family disapprove of him? Are you dating someone new? It's time for you to move on too, since you broke up with him yrs ago.

 

Why don't you go no contact and block him, he's moved on, got a new gf, and asked you to leave him alone. He'll just have her name tattooed over it.

he ignored them and even said leave me alone i have a gf. He changed overnight into another person. He and his new gf are together now for 5 months. The same date he last wrote me.

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[derin123]

I get it he has the right to move on of course. The thing that confuses

me is that he does not give my stuff back. He knows that i will leave him alone once he returns them. So its confusing it is as if he enjoys that i beg him for my stuff or he holds onto them to have an excuse to contact me in the future.

We were not the same religion thats why they disapproved of him.

I tried to move on back then but he constantly wanted to get back and it kept me from moving on and it was a shock to me that he started a relationship with a girl just a day after he asked me to get back.

[moodindigo91]

but i did not see much of an effort tbh. Sure he messaged me etc but we are in the same university and he could have come to talk to me at least.

 

but the other day found a new gf. After that day he completely ignored me and didnt response to my texts. I only wanted my stuff back thats why i texted him but he ignored them and even said leave me alone i have a gf.

 

What do you think he owes you? You broke up with him for whatever reason, the bottom line is that YOU BROKE UP WITH HIM, and strung him along for 1.5 YEARS. If your family disapproved and you had to break up with him that should have been the complete end of your relationship with him, instead you strung him along and made him think he COULD get you back, and he TRIED, in vain. Now you're complaining about the lack of effort he put into trying to get you back for almost 2 years with no effort on your part at all? Sorry, but you had 1.5 years to get your stuff back, and it's about time you allow the guy to move on.

 

If you REALLY want your stuff back, send a friend to get it, leave the poor guy alone. I have an inkling that this isn't at all about the stuff though, since you had 1.5 years literally to get it back but didn't.

[Wiseman2]

You have a right to get your things back so perhaps have a neutral intermediary arrange to get your things from him. But he has a gf so contact with you is inappropriate. Let go.

 

Start dating guys your parents will approve of so you don't have to go through this heartache or create it for someone else again.

he does not give my stuff back. it was a shock to me that he started a relationship with a girl just a day after he asked me to get back.

[derin123]

No i never made it seem like we could get back together. He texted me and i explained him that it would not work out. I never gave him hope.

the reason i am saying that he didnt try hard enough is because he did broke up with me years ago for 9 months and I dis whatever i could to get him back. I texted him every day he did not want to talk to me. I tried to meet up with him, I talked to his family so I really tried any option and finally we got back together. I just did compare his effort with mine thats why I said he didnt put much effort into it. I saw his tweets during that time and he had slightly feelings for other girls at some point so this was the reason. He could have talked to my mom or at least something else idk. I would have

tried much harder thats what Im

saying. He didnt give me hope either in those 4 months.

So yeah, before the gf i asked him to get my stuff back also, and he said that he would give it

to me but the new gf got in the way i guess and now he ignores it completely.

[jennylove]

There is nothing that you need back after not having it for 1.5 years. Leave him alone.

[boltnrun]

You're upset that he's no longer chasing you. Even though you didn't want him back.

 

And really, because he didn't do all the things you did means he didn't put in enough effort?? He tried for ONE AND A HALF YEARS! I see effort. But you kept saying no. I'd have given up and dated someone else long before a year and a half.

 

And jennylove is right, if you didn't need your things for 1 1/2 years you certainly don't need them now. Stop using your "things" as an excuse to try to get him to start chasing after you again.

 

I suggest moving on. You can date someone else too, right?