Gardeningfool Posted October 17, 2016 Share Posted October 17, 2016 Hi everyone! So things are really going great and progressing for us as a couple. I'm going to his brothers wedding in just a few weeks. I did not meet the family until this past weekend. Unfortunately they had a very close family member pass on Friday. Saturday night he invited me out to dinner with his family. His family was welcoming and wonderful to me. They made me feel very comfortable even in there sad time. They have dinner together every Sunday and my guy was hosting at his house they invited me to come. I loved it! I enjoyed helping him cook, seven, cleaning up and snuggling on the couch after they left. I was what I had always wished for. Tonight I'm attending the wake. Even though his family was wonderful i just feel alittle stressed. It's a big step However, it makes me so nervous that we are at the point where we are involving our family. He has yet to meet my family. I said that he could meet them after the wedding. I think he was upset that I have not brought up him meeting mine. I just think I'm not really ready for that step. My family is also a very close italian family and wonderful I just don't feel there yet bc it makes me worry about getting hurt by him in the future. I guess bc I feel like things are great, and I just don't want to ruin anything. I don't know should I take the plunge and just introduce him or should I just continue to live in my happy bubble that I feel safe in Link to comment
Batya33 Posted October 17, 2016 Share Posted October 17, 2016 Can't you introduce him in a more casual way? Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted October 17, 2016 Share Posted October 17, 2016 How long have you been dating? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted October 17, 2016 Share Posted October 17, 2016 Yes, you should be gracious enough to do what he and his family have already done for you. Does he think it's rude that you won't reciprocate and keep him at arm's length? That would make him leave sooner than meeting your family would, no? Why not just invite everyone to your place for a casual dinner sometime? What bearing would meeting your family have on whether "he hurts you in the future"? I think he was upset that I have not brought up him meeting mine. I just think I'm not really ready for that step. My family is also a very close italian family ] Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted October 17, 2016 Share Posted October 17, 2016 I just had a read back on your threads and I sat here smiling , what a lovely healthy relationship you have both got , it was refreshing to read GF it really was . Your only problem is your fear .... you are so frightened of your bubble bursting but it wont ..your bubble will just get bigger so to speak ..have some confidence in this lovely relationship , because it is the first time in 5 years I have read back someones threads and actually sat and smiled !!! My word of caution is this ..As humans we have a terrible habit of not believing it really is as good as it feels and the better it gets the more we expect something to go wrong ..in the end ..well , have you heard of a self-fulfilling prophecy ? That is what we end up doing to ourselves ...we inadvertently put that much energy into it all going wrong that it actually does ... You enjoy where this is going , you sound like a lovely couple ...fight the fear and accept this is wonderful and will carry on been wonderful . Link to comment
Gardeningfool Posted October 17, 2016 Author Share Posted October 17, 2016 We have been dating since June How long have you been dating? Link to comment
Gardeningfool Posted October 17, 2016 Author Share Posted October 17, 2016 [ Your right. Thank you!!! QUOTE=Wiseman2;6670368]Yes, you should be gracious enough to do what he and his family have already done for you. Does he think it's rude that you won't reciprocate and keep him at arm's length? That would make him leave sooner than meeting your family would, no? Why not just invite everyone to your place for a casual dinner sometime? What bearing would meeting your family have on whether "he hurts you in the future"? ] Link to comment
Gardeningfool Posted October 17, 2016 Author Share Posted October 17, 2016 Thank you!! Your reply made me smile and made me realize that things really are great and your right I'm just afraid. I'm going to work on it. Thank you so much I just had a read back on your threads and I sat here smiling , what a lovely healthy relationship you have both got , it was refreshing to read GF it really was . Your only problem is your fear .... you are so frightened of your bubble bursting but it wont ..your bubble will just get bigger so to speak ..have some confidence in this lovely relationship , because it is the first time in 5 years I have read back someones threads and actually sat and smiled !!! My word of caution is this ..As humans we have a terrible habit of not believing it really is as good as it feels and the better it gets the more we expect something to go wrong ..in the end ..well , have you heard of a self-fulfilling prophecy ? That is what we end up doing to ourselves ...we inadvertently put that much energy into it all going wrong that it actually does ... You enjoy where this is going , you sound like a lovely couple ...fight the fear and accept this is wonderful and will carry on been wonderful . Link to comment
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