I very much crush someone in the internet? I cry about her a lot? Am I crazy?

[Acmii]

So basically, there's this app where you could watch people broadcast themselves, basically talking to them while they're on video live, and you're on the chat, typing.

 

I've been kind of into this app, and I've come across a really beautiful girl, 15 years old, just like me, and single. Her eyes really caught my attention, and her personality is really nice. Me and the other viewers were talking to her, having a nice chat. But after she ended her broadcast, I couldn't stop thinking of her. Call me mentally unstable but I do get depressed sometimes, actually, very depressed to an extent of shedding tears wishing I was in the same country as this girl. She doesn't even know that I exist because of the enormous amount of other people she talked to in that broadcast. I feel really jealous when somebody tried to flirt with her, and often tried to grab her attention. I keep asking myself, will I go through this? Is this love or puppy love? I'm still a teenager, I can't fall in love seriously with other girls yet." That's what I tell myself everyday. Every morning I wake up, I think of her, and every minute at school, I think of her. I picture her with another boy, and I cry a bit. Is this normal or is this a disorder? Please, I need help.

 

Not to mention but, I really felt uncomfortable writing this, but thank you for reading!

 

From a shy 15 year old boy from Asia,

Acmii.

[Knot2loud]

Start getting out of the fantasy world now. There are beautiful girls your age in your country. Get off the IPhone and get out there and start meeting them. Hang out with friends and when you see a girl you are interested in... Smile at her. If you get rejected... Move on to the next. You're going to get rejected a thousand times in your lifetime. Might as well start getting used to it now.

 

15 years old... Ah the memories...

[SkellyWoozle]

The Internet is not real life. This girl is not real life. .... sorry to sound harsh but you're 15 years old and you have your whole life ahead of you. Get out into that big wide world - join a club, meet like minded people who you can get to know properly, inside and out and other just through a screen. There is, believe it or not, a big, beautiful world out there beyond t'internet with a gazillion things to look forward to and explore. Life is too short. ....live every day as if it's your last.

[Acmii]

Thank you for responding., I've also had girls like me but I really do not feel the same. I do hang out with friends at school but it is an all boys school so no girls. Anyway am I mentally sick for being like this? Or is this normal? I was born an only child and grew up fatherless.

[Wiseman2]

It's best not to over-analyze. It's normal to have crushes on pretty girls. Do some things outside of school that are coed so you interact more with girls.

I've also had girls like me but I really do not feel the same. I do hang out with friends at school but it is an all boys school so no girls.

[qwaspolk82]

So basically, there's this app where you could watch people broadcast themselves, basically talking to them while they're on video live, and you're on the chat, typing.

 

I've been kind of into this app, and I've come across a really beautiful girl, 15 years old, just like me, and single. Her eyes really caught my attention, and her personality is really nice. Me and the other viewers were talking to her, having a nice chat. But after she ended her broadcast, I couldn't stop thinking of her. Call me mentally unstable but I do get depressed sometimes, actually, very depressed to an extent of shedding tears wishing I was in the same country as this girl. She doesn't even know that I exist because of the enormous amount of other people she talked to in that broadcast. I feel really jealous when somebody tried to flirt with her, and often tried to grab her attention. I keep asking myself, will I go through this? Is this love or puppy love? I'm still a teenager, I can't fall in love seriously with other girls yet." That's what I tell myself everyday. Every morning I wake up, I think of her, and every minute at school, I think of her. I picture her with another boy, and I cry a bit. Is this normal or is this a disorder? Please, I need help.

 

Not to mention but, I really felt uncomfortable writing this, but thank you for reading!

 

From a shy 15 year old boy from Asia,

Acmii.

 

It's a crush. Nothing more. Get off the Internet and go out in the world and meet some real people.

[katrina1980]

Thank you for responding., I've also had girls like me but I really do not feel the same. I do hang out with friends at school but it is an all boys school so no girls.

 

Anyway am I mentally sick for being like this? Or is this normal?

I was born an only child and grew up fatherless.

 

First off, I won't go as far to say you are mentally ill... but TBH yes I think it is abnormal for you to harbor an obsession (which is what this is) for some chick off the internet, whom you have never met, probably never will meet, who doesn't even know you exist.

 

Second, growing up fatherless IS a problem. Do you have any close male relatives you can talk to, who can mentor you?

 

You need a male role model in your life, otherwise how will you learn to be a MAN, which means (for one thing) NOT crying over some random chick you and your friends chatted with from the internet who doesn't know who you are.

 

Sorry this is harsh but COME ON NOW dude, get a hold of yourself.

 

You are only 15. There is a big wide world out there chock full of pretty girls.

 

IF you are only able to develop "feelings" for chicks off the internet, chicks who don't even know you exist, becoming depressed, etc. because you can't be with them, then I suggest you seek professional help before it gets worse.

 

Good luck.

[Acmii]

I have had intense crushes on girls in real life and in my country too so I think I dont only get attracted to Internet chicks only.. I also think this obsession is slowly starting to fade away.. anyway thx for responding. Maybe its because I never saw someone that beautiful yet and i sorta got temporarily a crush on..

 

Ps. I got alot of friends and I dont stay that much in the internet