2dazedbyu Posted October 12, 2016 Share Posted October 12, 2016 I've been dating this guy for almost 2 years now and I have a hard time opening up to him. Mostly because he is considered trashy and a bad influence and a womanizer. He treated me great in the beginning almost to good. Over the past year things have changed so drastically that I have to put on my happy face and smile through the hate and hurt he is causing me from the quick change in his behavior. I love hard and deep until I am pushed away he has me to the point of wanting to cheat and be in the company of a different man. I know it's wrong but I know inside he stopped caring a long time ago. Today I seen my ex boyfriend at a car lot and it was hard not to say Mr K how's life treating you and I am your biggest fan with him standing there. Although past is past it made me miss him in my life for a spilt second and I fell back to reality of my present relationship which is doomed. I rarely talk about my exs with my current boyfriend because it seems to breed hatred in him towards me. I'm at a crossroads in my life right now. Im not sure whether to end my current situation or walk down memory lane?!? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted October 13, 2016 Share Posted October 13, 2016 It's common when in a horrid relationship to fantasize about the past and better days. There's no need to confide in this guy. Just end it and move out. Do you work? Do you have friends or family you can stay with? Did you call the domestic violence place for help yet? When you googled "red flags for abusive relationships" did any of it fit?I've been dating this guy for almost 2 years now he is considered trashy and a bad influence and a womanizer. ...same guy? Link to comment
Scoe141 Posted October 13, 2016 Share Posted October 13, 2016 If this guys showing signs of domestic abuse it's time to call the cops and move out. If not, I can promise you could be danger. It really isn't a joke. Like wiseman said, try and hook up with family and friends and DO NOT tell him where you're going. Best of luck. Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted October 13, 2016 Share Posted October 13, 2016 I think you'd be better off by yourself for a period of time so you can sort yourself out. Putting on a happy face for someone else's sake is not a smart thing to do. Fantasizing about an ex is just that, and won't get you anywhere. Link to comment
SherrySher Posted October 13, 2016 Share Posted October 13, 2016 Don't go backwards,it's never a good place to go and right now you sound very vulnerable and are thinking of running back to something familiar, don't do it. This man that you are with now is treating you badly, so just about anyone will look good right now. Try and get away from him once and for all and heal yourself. Find love and comfort from family and friends until you can get back on your feet again. Link to comment
2dazedbyu Posted October 13, 2016 Author Share Posted October 13, 2016 I have been referred to shelters for battered women but I guess I am scared Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted October 13, 2016 Share Posted October 13, 2016 Do you co-own/rent the place or is it his?I have been referred to shelters for battered women but I guess I am scared Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted October 13, 2016 Share Posted October 13, 2016 I am sorry for your situation but you seem to view the only way out is with another man. Please consider a more obvious choice and that is to move on by yourself and heal. Monkey branching to another relationship in an effort to escape a bad one is a sure fire way to end up in another toxic relationship. You are in crisis and not able to make good choices at the moment. Link to comment
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