Elliejayde Posted October 12, 2016 Share Posted October 12, 2016 Yesterday I woke up to an email from my ex asking something he already knew the answer too. I ignored it. He then messaged me later on in the day yesterday off his brothers number (his number is blocked) saying 'Thought you should know, my gran passed away this morning. S x.' I replied with 'I'm so sorry to hear that, she was a lovely lady. Thoughts with you, your dad & brother'. 'Thanks. I'm off golfing today, need to clear my head. Will treat myself to some new balls I think. Hope all is well with you' 'Much better than I have been thx' His last reply was 👍😘😘 We agreed 10 days ago not to contact each other. We had a huge heart to heart, & agreed we needed the space. but he's obviously not getting the attention he wants from whichever woman on whatever dating site he's on these days. I've been doing ok. Better. Now I'm back to overanalyzing every message, looking between lines. Gah. Link to comment
rich46 Posted October 12, 2016 Share Posted October 12, 2016 Yesterday I woke up to an email from my ex asking something he already knew the answer too. I ignored it. He then messaged me later on in the day yesterday off his brothers number (his number is blocked) saying 'Thought you should know, my gran passed away this morning. S x.' I replied with 'I'm so sorry to hear that, she was a lovely lady. Thoughts with you, your dad & brother'. 'Thanks. I'm off golfing today, need to clear my head. Will treat myself to some new balls I think. Hope all is well with you' 'Much better than I have been thx' His last reply was We agreed 10 days ago not to contact each other. We had a huge heart to heart, & agreed we needed the space. but he's obviously not getting the attention he wants from whichever woman on whatever dating site he's on these days. I've been doing ok. Better. Now I'm back to overanalyzing every message, looking between lines. Gah. Fair enough for you to reply after his gran passed away, but wouldn't have bothered replying to the next message, and definitely wouldn't advise replying to future ones. He will try to touch base with you every so often just to make sure he still has you reeled in a bit. Ignore and move along with your life. Link to comment
Onegirl123 Posted October 12, 2016 Share Posted October 12, 2016 He needs to let go. Last year, a guy broke up with me and a week later, my grandpa died. The boyfriend had never met the grandparent (as my grandparents live far away) and I admit I had a strong urge to contact him, to share and be comforted after the news. However, I slept on it that night and realised that I didn't want to make him feel guilty - as that was probably the only thing I'd achieve from it. So I never told him. If you keep responding to his messages, he will keep texting you as he will know that he can get a response. It was totally fine to respond to the message about his nan passing away but I'm not sure that you need to continue responding to him or he won't get the hint. Link to comment
lancelot873 Posted October 12, 2016 Share Posted October 12, 2016 don't over analyze. just keep moving forward and don't reply as much or at all. Link to comment
Seymore Posted October 12, 2016 Share Posted October 12, 2016 Why haven't you blocked him? Link to comment
Elliejayde Posted October 12, 2016 Author Share Posted October 12, 2016 I have blocked him, he messaged me off his brothers phone! Link to comment
Elliejayde Posted October 12, 2016 Author Share Posted October 12, 2016 don't over analyze. just keep moving forward and don't reply as much or at all. I'm trying! I replied once after the I'm sorry about his Gran. I hate that he still sends the blowing kiss emoji. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted October 12, 2016 Share Posted October 12, 2016 You handled it well. Now ignore unknown contact if you've blocked/deleted him.I hate that he still sends the blowing kiss emoji. If he sends you this: ] Send him this: ] Link to comment
Seymore Posted October 12, 2016 Share Posted October 12, 2016 I have blocked him, he messaged me off his brothers phone! The e-mail - why haven't you blocked his e-mail? Did you block his brother's phone? Link to comment
Elliejayde Posted October 12, 2016 Author Share Posted October 12, 2016 The e-mail - why haven't you blocked his e-mail? Did you block his brother's phone? It was a new email address I didn't know he had. Yep, his brothers & his dad's have been blocked now. Link to comment
DancingFool Posted October 12, 2016 Share Posted October 12, 2016 There is nothing between the lines and nothing to read here. His grandma died and he is off to play golf and is worrying about new balls......well isn't he just a grief stricken little thing /sarcasm. The guy is a certified jerk, so block all other means of contact he might use/have and when he does come up with some other stuff he just "needs" to contact you over, do not respond no matter what. He is just trying to string you along for an ego boost, so don't fall for it and don't let him. In this situation, silence is your friend and the only thing that will get the message to him that you are too smart to fall for that kind of garbage treatment. Link to comment
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