Need strong advice on where to go from here

[MrRacks]

Okay so me and this girl have been friends for 2 and a half years but certain things are changing. She's been with other people and so have I while we've been friends but recently we've been getting a lot closer. A couple days ago we were alone with each other and started making out a lot, cuddling, taking pictures together, talking about life. She wanted to have sex with me but said she was on her period. She said "let's take this slow" but I know that means "I like you but I'm still going to see other people". I do like her but at the same time I have mixed feelings as a relationship with her would be nice but I sense a lot of indecision in her. I just need strong advice on where to go from here so I don't get played or turn her off.

[gebaird]

Be very clear in your own mind about what you are looking for in a relationship. Write it down so you won't forget. Then pursue a relationship with this girl and see where it goes. If you compare what you want with what you have and it continually comes up lacking, don't be afraid to walk away.

 

It's normal for her to be hesitant and not want to be exclusive right away, but there's a difference between "let's not be exclusive yet" and "let's not be exclusive EVER." The only way to know which one you are facing is to walk down the road towards a relationship with her and see how it goes.

[Wiseman2]

Be straight up and ask her if you want to be exclusive...if you want to date her. But it sounds like FWB would be better for you since you are friends who want sex but want to date others.

She wanted to have sex with me but said she was on her period. She said "let's take this slow" but I know that means "I like you but I'm still going to see other people".