Is She Making Excuses?

[confusedguy255]

So I met one of my coworkers (works in a different department) on a dating website, and we became mutual matches. We had said, "good morning" or "how are you doing?" in person a few times, but never a full on conversation. So after becoming matches, I asked her to lunch and we had a good time. A week or so later she came over to my apartment after work and we watched a movie. And the next day we went hiking after work. We had a great time each time we have hung out, but lately when I have asked her to hang out, she has had excuses or reschedules for the next day, but when the next day rolls by, she has another excuse. Is she just trying to say she's not interested without saying those words? I'm confused because we have talked about we should go this event or go to this place, etc.

[Scoe141]

Hey confused, sorry you're having to wonder about this. I would say yes, it sounds like she's lost interest. And since you two are coworkers, she's trying to keep the peace. I would stop talking to her, avoid her at work and when you see just be polite. Nothing more.

 

It's probably best to move on.

 

Good luck.

[PJA1982]

Rather than coming onto a forum querying whether she is making is excuses the real question should be "How should I deal with this?".

 

If you would like to put your mind at ease all you would need to do would be to ask her, which might I add, is a perfectly normal course of action to take as a mature adult.

 

The alternative is to leave it with her, and if she reaches out to you then go with that.

[Wiseman2]

Unfortunately the "busy signal" can indicate losing interest. Lay back and she if she initiate conversation or meeting up.

We had a great time each time we have hung out, but lately when I have asked her to hang out, she has had excuses or reschedules for the next day, but when the next day rolls by, she has another excuse.

...same girl?

[Hollyj]

Sounds like she has lost interest. Sorry.

[Scoe141]

Unfortunately the "busy signal" can indicate losing interest. Lay back and she if she initiate conversation or meeting up....same girl?

 

It's probably best that you begin to heal on your own. Throwing a new girl in the mix is only asking for trouble.

 

There are plenty other things that you can do to get over your ex. Buy a new video game, take up a new hobby, go to the gym, volunteer etc.

 

Good luck.