skyline Posted October 7, 2016 Share Posted October 7, 2016 So I have recently been on here a while ago but have lost my account so ill give a brief description. When i last was on here i went through a breakup with a girl that had blocked me from her life and eventually we came to the conclusion of me moving on as best i could. Well 6 months down the line we saw each other on nights out and she has finally spoken to me and expressed wanting to get back with me. Since this i have been trying to change the bad things about our previous relationship and changing my ways. I have found out that she has been diagnosed with depression and is on tablets. But one thing that is not different is her ability to get so angry and annoyed at simple things. She will tell me I do it and need to change it but she does it constantly! Just today my work colleagues asked about my tyre as i had a spare on so i told work what happened which was a guy who has an issue with my girlfriend knifed my tyre. Now they know the previous relationship as it affected my work but i told her thinking it would be laughed about and she decided to say 'why did u tell them now i look even more of a b**ch than before. Its annoying they hate me enough as it is etc...' I tried to reason with her by saying babe its fine you dont know them and still you care what people think there's no reason to get so angry. She then went on to say I always make her look so bad and that I am irritating her. She then hung up on me as she is prone to doing to people. And I haven't messaged or called back at all yet. I almost feel like she feels she can do this because she doesnt think she will loose me so thinks she can apologise and everything will be okay. We spoke literally 10 minutes before this and were all lovey dovey now shes behaving like this. I dont know how to fix this or the approach to take anymore because I love her with everything and want my life with her but I can not carry on with her doing this and apologising and then when i get annoyed about something I am told to calm down! She says she loves me but surly you dont behave like this if you do and would at least put effort into it all with changing the negative about us? What do i do any advice will be great!! Link to comment
Andrina Posted October 7, 2016 Share Posted October 7, 2016 You love someone who is toxic in your life. It's possible to love someone who is emotionally healthy for you. The secret to finding her is to cut off the people who have anger issues so that you will be free when the right one comes along. If this is the only type of partner who you think you are worthy of, you might work on your self esteem so that you won't settle in the future. Link to comment
SkellyWoozle Posted October 7, 2016 Share Posted October 7, 2016 Sky, can I offer you your own advice from another post..... ".....Honestly, Ive been through this recently and all i can say is walk away you need to get out with friends friends are the big help. Keep yourself constantly busy. And who knows she may even come back but thats not guaranteed you just have to finally accept its over and move on girls don't like needy boys simple as that it makes you look weak in their eyes. You need to enjoy life and move on. And if you were to get back together you wouldn't be able to until you have moved on. You wont be attracted to anyone after 2 months thats just stupid really! It will take you a while in which if she did come back to you you may find yourself telling her you're happy as you are. You are strong enough to get through it thousands do everyday. Take one day at a time and it will eventually become easier....." If she's depressed, then that could be a very real problem with the way she treats you... I'm not saying it makes it right by any means - but it's a good indicator. That said, it could also be that her usual/natural personality traits are exacerbated by her depression. Whatever the issue, you shouldn't have to tread on egg shells when you're around her in the hope that that things don't kick off. Relationships shouldn't be like that. Have you considered that maybe it wasn't necessarily you who needed to work on things in the first place? You need to take a step back, cut this girl off and move on. This is not a healthy relationship to be in and until she can remedy her anger issues. Sorry Link to comment
Scoe141 Posted October 7, 2016 Share Posted October 7, 2016 Just today my work colleagues asked about my tyre as i had a spare on so i told work what happened which was a guy who has an issue with my girlfriend knifed my tyre. Guys knifing your tyre over a girl? You patch it up and ride away solo. You don't need these headaches, not to mention her attitude and comment about being a b&(*. What do your co-workers say? I bet they don't approve. Let this one go, find someone a bit more stable and who wants to be with you. Not take a 6 month hiatus only to come back when it's good for her. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted October 7, 2016 Share Posted October 7, 2016 Unfortunately it seems none of the issues have been resolved. She is angry you are gossiping about her business at work. It sounds like you still annoy each other and are not compatible. Leave her alone to cool off and apologize for making her the joke of your office. Does she still have the same temper tantrums as before?she decided to say 'why did u tell them now i look even more of a b**ch than before. Its annoying they hate me enough as it is etc...' She then went on to say I always make her look so bad and that I am irritating her. ...Same girl? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted October 7, 2016 Share Posted October 7, 2016 Replied in your identical thread/post under the user name AnonymousSky 523037&p=6663508&viewfull=1#post6663508"] Link to comment
trickykid Posted October 7, 2016 Share Posted October 7, 2016 Woah, red alert. What I read is about you doing the changing and heavy lifting, what is she going to change? Do you need this in your life? If someone is knifing your tyres over her and she has major issues, would it be better to just move on and find someone who is more stable. Because maybe next time the knife wont go into the tyre, it might just end up in you Link to comment
DivineDMC Posted October 7, 2016 Share Posted October 7, 2016 Hi there OP.... not knowing the full history of your relationship, and at the risk of sounding heartless (my heart really does go out to you), I would say RUN... far, far away from this person. It seems that the relationship may be toxic, and there may be some emotional abuse going on here. Again, I don't know the full story, so I apologize in advance, but if it didn't work out the first time, what makes you think it will this time... especially since so little time has passed since you broke up the last time? Maybe it will be a different story if had been years between the break up, but it doesn't seem she is interested in changing her destructive behavior. Link to comment
Seymore Posted October 7, 2016 Share Posted October 7, 2016 Aren't you glad you got back with her? Exes are exes for a reason, man. Have some self-respect and move on. Link to comment
Seymore Posted October 7, 2016 Share Posted October 7, 2016 What's so urgent here that you had to create a second account? And do you think people are that dumb that they won't notice two identical posts so close together on the main page? Link to comment
moodindigo91 Posted October 7, 2016 Share Posted October 7, 2016 This is a prime example of why you should never get back together with your ex unless YEARS have passed. You broke up for a reason, and now you'll break up again for the same reason. Stop wasting your time on her. Link to comment
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