AvaD21 Posted October 5, 2016 Share Posted October 5, 2016 Hi guys, I posted my first on here the other day. I must say I felt better. I started reading other posts and there's something so helpful in that. I felt upbeat the rest of the day and night and then all today. Out of nowhere, a major wall of sadness just hit me like a ton of bricks. I took a drive, just sitting back in my seat feeling a horrible nauseas feeling that I just want him to ring me. I just want to tell him I still love him. He told me the last time we spoke over a week ago he wasn't over the situation, I wasn't sympathetic & madehim feel bad. I kinda feel that's probably pushed him into rebounding I don't know. I hate not knowing from one hour to the next how I'm going to feel. I know there's a better future I just wish I wasn't stuck in this rut. I feel like I'm drowning sometimes. I suffer with anxiety & I wish I knew how to help myself to feel better, permenantly. Sorry for the long post it just helped to type it out the other day Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gebaird Posted October 5, 2016 Share Posted October 5, 2016 I'm sorry you are feeling so sad. Feelings can be very volatile in the initial stages after a breakup. It will get better, though, if you keep doing the right things - like maintaining NC, working on yourself, spending time with friends, and finding healthy distractions. Time is an essential component of the healing process as well, and that's not something you can shortcut. I'm glad you have found some solace here. I have as well. You really do have what it takes to get through this, to heal and move forward with your life. Keep posting here and reading other people's stories -- it's a much better option than continuing to reach out to someone who doesn't want you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AvaD21 Posted October 5, 2016 Author Share Posted October 5, 2016 Thank you for your comment. Considering what goes on in the world, I feel pathetic at times for making this the centre of my universe, I know I'm not the only one who's felt this way there's just something validating in having people say they understand & they've been there, really sucks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emptyeffort Posted October 5, 2016 Share Posted October 5, 2016 your mood and feelings are gonna change a lot over the next few weeks. itll take a while for normalcy to kick in again. took me 2 months to not seem depressive on the outside anymore. a few days after the breakup i somehow felt really good again after being at the worst point of my life. then in the evening just the thought of having to go back to that sadness made me have some kind of panic attack where i started to breath heavily and had to leave my flat in the middle of the night. im a really lazy dude and leaving my flat for "nothing" is not something i would do lightly just to show how serious it was that night. after 1-2 hours i calmed down again. its been almost exactly a year now since then. it gets better with time. really time is the only thing that helps you heal. keep no contact and distract yourself with what ever you can is my advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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