Heartbroken

[Photon]

So this girl I liked just got out of a 2 year long relationship and about a month we started talking laughing. We went on a few dates and we had a great time. The all of a sudden she changed and It became hard to talk to her or even get close to her. I finally got her to tell me what was wrong. And to make things short she said she found it hard to find a connection with me because our families were too different. the fact I had a picture perfect family and hers was not. I told her to me her past didn't matter to me . Then she told me "My friend and I have been hanging out lately and we both have connected but I don't know that it is going anywhere. I just don't know what I want." (Which I am pretty sure it's her Ex but I could be wrong )So I just said it would be best if we took a break from each other. Bad thing is we both work at the same job.

 

What should I do? Feel like just drinking but i know that wont help, I really like her, now I just feel like every relationship I get into I end up as the rebound guy.

[OldRomantic83]

"My friend and I have been hanging out lately and we both have connected but I don't know that it is going anywhere. I just don't know what I want."

 

That kind of says to me that whatever this thing is she wants, it's not you... and if you are right about this 'friend' being her ex, that means she was never over him in the first place, and you should maybe dodge this bullet you can see heading towards your heart in slow motion.

[Clarisse]

The best thing to do is to move on. She is into someone else and it sounds like she may have other underlying issues that would prevent her from being a good partner anyway.

 

Don't let this experience tarnish your view of yourself or relationships. Be thankful that this ended after only a month before you had a chance to become really enmeshed with her. Sometimes, things just don't work out and 99% of the time, it ends up being a GOOd thing, even though it hurts at first. There's another girl out there who will be a matter match and emotionally available to be in a relationship.

 

Get through the pain in a healthy way by distracting yourself with positive, fun activities (no drinking) and don't get bitter. Break ups happen. It simply means you're closer to meeting the right person.

 

Hang in there.