I´m in love with my friend

[greenChift]

Ok i know that its very cliche but its not that simple, first of all i have known her for 2 years now and she just broke up with her boyfriend, the thing is that while she had a boyfriend she started having feelings for another guy, a not so close friend of mine but still a friend, and because of him they broke up once in the past, at the begining he was in love with her but now she told me that right now he is not that into her but now she is really into him buuut she wants to let him go, the night she told me that, I thought that maybe it was my chance to tell her how I feel, but every time I see her in college she is with him almost all the time and she acts the total opposite to the way you expect someone who want to let go somebody.

 

So I started thinking that it may not be a good idea to tell her how I feel, she just had a brake up so she may not be doing so well with her feeling, and even though i want to tell her just to free me from this preasure on my chest I can end up confusing her and messing up everything.

 

So what do you guys think I should do? Tell her how I feel just to make me feel better, even though she might reject me? or I let her deal with her own emotions and wait a little more?

 

Beforehand thanks for your time and advice

 

P.S. Sorry for any mistake that I could have made, this is not my native lenguage

[gebaird]

Tough situation. If you put yourself out there, she could reject you -- and you might even lose the friendship. If you don't put yourself out there, you'll continue to be the friend she talks to about all her other romances and it might drive you crazy! She seems pretty drawn to this other guy at the moment, so while that's happening you might want to hold back. But if she does actually let him go (like she said she wants to do), let her know how you feel and see what happens.

[Wiseman2]

Unfortunately having a bf or dating someone or a crush on someone else is a red flag. Also the fact that she discusses relationship stuff with you the way she would with her girlfriends unfortunately is a sign that you're in the friendzone.

 

I would not bare my heart and soul to her. You may also want to stop talking with her about her dating life.

So I started thinking that it may not be a good idea to tell her how I feel, she just had a brake up so she may not be doing so well with her feeling, and even though i want to tell her just to free me from this preasure on my chest I can end up confusing her and messing up everything.

[ABCABC123ABC]

I'm with wiseman2 on this one... you are deep in the friendzone where she wants you to be. Confessing your true feelings won't get you in a relationship with her. Instead, it may put a strain on your friendship and make things really awkward.

 

Either accept being friends or risk your friendship for odds that are not in your favor. It seems that you are not okay with just being friends. If I had to bet my lifesavings on this situation, my money is on her saying no.