Will I get better?

[PatPatPat]

Over the past couple of weeks I've been trying to feel better with myself. I've posted a couple of times here and I feel I need to get professional help to get over my past issues because I don't think I can do it on my own.

 

I already got an appointment with a psychotherapist and my first session is tomorrow morning. I mainly want to get over my insecurities and jealousy issues. I know what triggered all of this because I didn't use to be like that.

 

But my question is, do you think going to therapy will actually help? I really want to get better and I'm feeling hopeful about this... maybe some of you have experience with therapy and you can give me some insight on what to or not to expect. Thanks!

[Wiseman2]

Yes, it will. Just be yourself, be honest, describe what's going on and let the therapist guide you from there.

do you think going to therapy will actually help?

[PatPatPat]

Yes, it will. Just be yourself, be honest, describe what's going on and let the therapist guide you from there.

 

They said therapy lasts about 10 sessions. That's about 3 months going to therapy. Is that a realistic period of time to feel better?

[Iggy5129]

Yes therapy helps if you will let it. Therapy helped pull me out of a serious depression a few years ago.

 

Three months seems quick but it just depends what the issues are. My were from my entire life so it took about a year of therapy to feel better and then another year to realize I don't need therapy anymore and I have the tools to deal on my own.

 

It just depends how deep the issues are and how quickly you can build up you emotional "tool box". Stick with it until you feel better. Don't give up. Find a new therapist if the first one doesn't work for you.

 

Good luck. You will get better if you truly want to. That's the real secret. No one can fix you. They can guide you but you have to want to change.

[catfeeder]

It works if you work it. It's not helpful to think of therapy like a carwash, where you go in, discuss your complaints and then come out feeling all shiny and clean. Therapy can actually raise some ugly stuff, such as hidden beliefs, and force you to face whether you'll want to hold onto habitual perceptions--or whether you're willing to go through the discomfort of forming new habits and viewing yourself and the world in ways that don't cater to keeping the status quo.

 

I don't raise this as something scary or 'bad,' but rather as encouragement that despite feeling lousy during the process sometimes, that doesn't mean it's not working--just the opposite. While you often need to make a mess while cleaning and clearing your home before you get to feel fabulous about it afterward, you'll need to be willing to make a mess with your therapist instead of trying to play the role of the 'good' patient. You'll need to be willing to accept challenges that you might view as criticism. It's not criticism--it's an alternative view of something you may have always held close as a 'fact'.

 

So be as honest as you can--and as open minded as possible to turning your assumptions upside down as to what things mean to you. You may learn that letting go of certain beliefs can be liberating, while replacing passivity with responsible habits that put you in the driver's seat can be empowering.

 

Head high, and let us know how it goes. If you want to journal about it here, you can.

[PatPatPat]

It works if you work it. It's not helpful to think of therapy like a carwash, where you go in, discuss your complaints and then come out feeling all shiny and clean. Therapy can actually raise some ugly stuff, such as hidden beliefs, and force you to face whether you'll want to hold onto habitual perceptions--or whether you're willing to go through the discomfort of forming new habits and viewing yourself and the world in ways that don't cater to keeping the status quo.

 

I don't raise this as something scary or 'bad,' but rather as encouragement that despite feeling lousy during the process sometimes, that doesn't mean it's not working--just the opposite. While you often need to make a mess while cleaning and clearing your home before you get to feel fabulous about it afterward, you'll need to be willing to make a mess with your therapist instead of trying to play the role of the 'good' patient. You'll need to be willing to accept challenges that you might view as criticism. It's not criticism--it's an alternative view of something you may have always held close as a 'fact'.

 

So be as honest as you can--and as open minded as possible to turning your assumptions upside down as to what things mean to you. You may learn that letting go of certain beliefs can be liberating, while replacing passivity with responsible habits that put you in the driver's seat can be empowering.

 

Head high, and let us know how it goes. If you want to journal about it here, you can.

 

Thank you for your message. This is a problem I've been living and it affected my relationship. It made me lose the man I wanted to start a family with and if in the future I find another good man I don't want my issues to get in the way.

 

I'm really open to change, and I learn quickly. I went to my first session this morning and it was kind of soothing. I cried as soon as the therapist told me to talk about my issues. Then she asked me to draw a person and tell a little story about it. After that she handed me a questionnaire with I agree or disagree phrases and finally she asked some behaviour questions.

 

I'm looking forward to my next appointment.

[megamuppet]

I started yesterday. I have 8 sessions. I am insecure and jealous too. I have hope. You should too x

[megamuppet]

Yes, it will. Just be yourself, be honest, describe what's going on and let the therapist guide you from there.

I had my first session last week for the same issues. I was very distressed and cried a lot. I feel angry bitter jealous ashamed and guilty about the way I behave. I felt relived afterwards. Just be honest x good luck. I have me second session in a couple of hours x

[Abby01]

Talking to someone will help and thats what therapy do.good luck and i wish you well.

[megamuppet]

My sessions are going well. Only had three but feeling more positive. I am talking to my husband more about it and he trying really hard. Hopefully it will get easier / better x