Should I move on?

[Camster534]

So my girlfriend of 3 years suddenly started to ignore me a couple of weeks ago about a month into her first year of college. It was odd because we have always talked to each other everyday for the entirety of the relationship. So after about a week of hearing nothing from her, I got worried and told her that I was going to come to her dorm and make sure she was alright. She responded and said it was a good idea. When I got there she told me that she just "Didn't want to be in a relationship anymore", but that she still loved me and eventually wanted to get back together. I still don't quite understand that. But I told her that I still love her and would wait for her. She stopped ignoring me that day, but immediately after, she started to ignore me again. Its been about a week since then.

 

Now my question is if I should move on. I cant tell if she's just playing games with me at this point. I still love her very much but if its hopeless, I need to know if I should move forward.

[melancholy123]

Move on. She's playing head games with you. The first year of college is one of major changes in every student's life and she is no exception. You two are quite young and perhaps your relationship has run it's course. Nobody should "wait" for the other person to come back to them. Get on with your life.

[Celeste7]

If you still love and care for her like you say you do, i completely understand that feeling. I suggest you make sure there isn't something else going on with her (depression, home sickness etc) that is making her this way. If not, talk to her about this issue. If she keeps avoiding you, then i would suggest moving on. This way, you have given her many chances to explain herself. Best of luck.

[silently]

Move on for sure!!! I know that's hard to hear, but I was in a similar situation. My boyfriend suddenly ignored me for a whole week a month ago and when I finally got him to talk to me, he broke up with me. He recently started college too and after the break up he kept sending me mixed signals and it turned into a WHOLE thing that made the break up so much harder on me because I still loved him and he was treating me like and play mind games. Cut it off now before you get even more hurt. No contact is the best way to move on, after everything happen with me and my ex I unfriended/unfollowed him on everything, cleared our messages off my phone, and put all our photos away. We haven't spoken in 3 weeks maybe, and after doing all that I've been feeling a whole lot better. It was really hard to do and I regretted it at first, but as time goes on I've realized it was for the best. I'm sorry you have to go through that, I know how it feels but save yourself even more heart break and start moving on.