Is she still interested?

[Johnjs37]

So I will make this as short as I can. I recently have been dating this girl from my gym. Started back in the beginning of September. We went out a total off three times this past Friday being the last. Seemed like good progress lot of touchy feely, kiss, hand holding, etc... So initially when I met this girl she was super shy, she still is it seems but getting better. She was also the worst communicator we would text and sometimes it would take a day for her to get back. Very bad. As we got to know each other a little more though she started being very vocal.

 

Long story short, since Friday she hasn't been as talkative. I feel like I am always the one opening the conversation otherwise we would never be talking. We literally have talked almost everyday for the past two weeks though. Some times short convo other times full blown convo. Might I add she is sooo busy with her work and school its so hard to get her out. We spoke yesterday and she just seemed so stressed cause she worked all weekend, I offered her to come to my place sometime this week and I would cook her a good meal. She basically declined saying, "I really appreciate that. I have a lot going on this week with work, school and preparing for my midterms. I"m having a hard time even just managing things I need to do." Of course I was understanding and said something to the nature of, "well as long as ya wanna hang again sometime well make it work. Haven't heard back though. I don't know it could be me just reading into it too much? Like I said we have been talking a lot but I don't want to press her. I mean do I not reach out to her for awhile? Any and all advice is apprecatied. Thanks!

[SkellyWoozle]

I think you're reading too much into it, she's busy and you need to give her a break for a day or two. You'll know soon enough if she's really into you. You've only been out three times, so it's VERY early days. Just take a step back and see what happens.

[Wiseman2]

Try to slow things down. Inviting her to your place may be too much too soon for her. She's shy so don't freak her out or overwhelm her. Text here and there.

 

Focus on going out, not your place. Just ask her when she's not busy would she like to go out.

I offered her to come to my place sometime this week and I would cook her a good meal. She basically declined saying, "I really appreciate that. I have a lot going on this week with work, school and preparing for my midterms. I"m having a hard time even just managing things I need to do."

[moodindigo91]

You're reading too much into it right now. She is busy, you're just now starting to get a sense of one another and your individual lives. The first few dates are always surface-dates, you just kinda talk about random things and get to know the sort of abstract versions of each other... bigger picture things like favorite music, color, whatever. Now you have to start to learn about each other's day to day lives if you continue to date. It's too early to tell if she's interested in taking it further or not, I'd let her contact you now. Ball's in her court. I think your line about "as long as ya wanna hang again sometime well make it work" is a weird line and if someone said that to me, I'd probably also not respond right away. It just comes off as weird for some reason. Maybe it is the way you wrote it? I can't quite put my finger on it. Either way, ball's in her court now. Don't put all your eggs in one basket, go on another date or something while you wait to see if she is interested enough and wants to make time for you in her busy schedule.