Update

[thejazzynator]

So me and my girlfriend have talking things out since my last posting. We have been having more sex, she is getting back into the gym this week. However, she admitted that we rushed things and even though she was the one who stressed moving in with each other and wanted to eventually get a house. She said that living together has made her pull away from me a little because she misses her personal space and sometimes I won't listen to her. Which is true, and I plan to work on that. But it was kinda hard given she lied about sex, said she faked orgasms with everyone including me and only told me 6 months in and never told anyone else. Mostly because she didn't wanna hurt. I explained to her that it still hurt beause she kept what could've been something to work on from the start away. She said that at the time it wasn't her top priority because of her living situation. Before she moved in with me she got kicked out by her roommate who was disrespectful to her and had her ghetto sister living there rent free with kids. Even had a prostitute in their home. It was bad. I stuck with her though. Her ex before shut off the lights in their home after she left and prompted the move with her ex roommate. I still stayed. 7 months in here I am. And she is saying we moved too fast. I agree. Even though she is more open with sex and I'm pleasing her. I feel like if it isn't one thing it's another. She said she wanted to focus on education and career and wanted me to do the same. I asked if that meant together or separately. She seemed bewildered and said of course together. She doesn't wanna break up but slow things down. I think we are far enough into thr relationship where we don't have to be glued to the hip anymore. I felt like things would've been smoother between us had we lived separately in the first place but she needed a place to stay. And wanted to stay with me. I think we are doing okay, being open with our feelings. I just wanted to give you guys an update and say thanks for the advice.

[Ms Darcy]

Good that you feel like things are better. There are still flags, but oh well. Good luck!

[SooSad33]

Why doesn't SHE look to rent a room in a basement apt or something so you're NOT always together.. and this ca be slowed down some, like she mentioned.

 

My son and gf haven't lived together as of yet and it's been 2.5 yrs. No extra pressure is needed.. Takes time to get to know each other.

[Wiseman2]

Glad things are working better. Try not to discourage her from being honest with you about sex. You may not have liked what you heard but she was at least honest with you and that's a good sign.

But it was kinda hard given she lied about sex, said she faked orgasms with everyone including me and only told me 6 months in and never told anyone else.

same girl?

[thejazzynator]

Glad things are working better. Try not to discourage her from being honest with you about sex. You may not have liked what you heard but she was at least honest with you and that's a good sign.same girl?

 

 

Yep same girl. She's out with friends right now. I got sick and couldn't go. I know she wanted me to come and thinks i hate going out but i honestly wanted to go just got sick. She checked on me, and she has apologized a lot about her behavior. I'm trying to be understanding, she even started back talking about us having a future together with a better house. She started back working out and she's being proactive about her health. I think a lot had to do with stress at work and money, and she kinda took a few things out on me. But later apologized. I understood and i just give her her space when she needs it, I'm still sweet to her. I'm kinda in a bad way myself. I lost my job, and as much as ppl think it's all been bad but this womam depleted her savings to make sure i was taken care of and could get to interviews for jobs. She may not be in love with me, she has loved and cared about me more than any woman I've been with that claimed to love or be in love. She's been more productive, she built a vanity for her make up tutorials and I'm gonna paint it for her. It's not all the way better, but it's getting there.