Help me figure this out

[pineapplelover]

I'll try not to make this too long. I just really need to talk to some people who are not going to be negative or make me feel like an idiot. Anyways, My ex and I were together almost 9 months. I am 18 and he is 16… I have never talked to a younger guy but I thought he was pretty mature for his age. We had a pretty good relationship for the most part. I was his first real relationship and first time for everything. We had a lot in common. Towards the end of our relationship, however, we went through a rough patch. He wouldn't put in the effort I wanted, causing me to be upset. I will admit, I would be overdramatic sometimes and that's my mistake. I just knew I was needing more from him and I wasn't getting it. I should've walked away but I didn't want to give up on him. He ended up breaking up with me and of course I made every mistake. I begged for him, tried to be his friend, had sex with him, etc. He told me he has no feelings for me in that way which really freaking hurt. How can you just lose feelings for someone you once "loved"? I finally decided I needed to move on so on about a week ago I blocked him on twitter. He asked me last Saturday why I did and he wanted to see if I was mad at him. I should have told him the truth (that I need to move on) but I just told him "Idk". Stupid! Anyways, that night I heard from a friend that she saw him dancing with some girl he used to talk a lot of crap about that used to be my friend. I said something to him about it (stupid again) and he was like we're not together don't worry about it, it's just dancing, etc. On Monday, the girl told my friend that they had been snap chatting and texting and that they might talk. Him and I got in a convo about it on Tuesday and he said "The funny thing is we only snap once an hour" and that "he's not looking for a new girlfriend". We haven't talked since, but today that same girl told my friend that she really likes him and that they talked about their relationship. ? By the way, my ex apparently ended it with me because I'm really "high maintenance" and I'm not just saying this to make myself look better…. but I am as high maintenance as any other girl. I like attention, I like feeling wanted, I like effort. What's wrong with that? I could care a less if I get gifts, I'm the type of girl who rather have a nice note. The girl he is talking to now is the most crazy high maintenance girl in our city. She is very rich, materialistic, and so not his type. I AM SO CONFUSED. Again, I am not just saying this because I don't like her at the moment. I have known her for a long time and this is the truth. Anyways, I guess I just don't know what to make of all of this. It's not even that I want him back, I just don't know what to think. In my mind I feel like once he sees that all girls are high maintenance on some levels and he sees the horror that is this new girl he will regret ending it. I'm just hoping that by then I'm moved on. I want to think she's a rebound since it's only been a month since our break up, but how can it be a rebound if he "has no feelings for me". UGH. I hate boys. Just saying. Lol.

[Wiseman2]

The sooner you ignore him and what he's up as well as go no contact the sooner you'll move on. Date some hot 18 y/o boy, this kid was too immature for you. Don't do any more baby sitting.

I'm just hoping that by then I'm moved on.

[pineapplelover]

thank you for that! I agree. It's just hard because I made the mistake of staying home for him, forgot to mention that. We live in the same town so I'm always hearing things.

[nihongo]

It was his first relationship so sorry it's probably lust not love.

[SkellyWoozle]

He's an immature boy who's enjoying the attention of other girls. Don't worry about him.... find someone your own age (or a bit older ) who will treat you right. Let him make a fool of himself - it's up to him if he wants to be a plonker. Get out there and have some fun yourself X

[kamurj]

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