Conversations on OLD

[MistyBlu]

OMGosh this is rampant. I have been serial dating in hopes of finding a long term relationship. BTW, nn the past two weeks I have been doing really well applying some suggestions from ENA. Thanks for that! Anyway, men want to have these dirty talk sessions. I'm not oppose during sex at all but I'm so not into sitting on the phone and creating a porn scenerio. It just doesn't do anything for me and I'm bad at it. Especially if they say something that's so bizarre like something I would never do. I don't respond fast enough and I don't have enough creativity. Also, sexting...I don't mind saying a few naughty things but I don't want to go on and on until you climax.

 

Is this a sacrifice I need to make. Like one of those things you do for your partner. I've been eliminating guys based on how important this is to them. I hate it and it doesn't turn me on.

[Wiseman2]

It's a lot cheaper to get someone on dating apps to be willing to engage in that go pay for it. Why not wait until you meet them/are in a relationship?

 

Block/delete.

men want to have these dirty talk sessions. I hate it and it doesn't turn me on.

[Vastaux]

Generally the guys who do this with girls they haven't even met yet are probably doing it with many others at the same time... They are creeps and not worth dealing with.

 

Drop em like it's hot the moment they bring it up and talk to the genuine guys who value you above helping them get their kicks.

[j.man]

... how do you catch this happening enough to where it's a noticeable trend? I understand there are some creepy guys in OLD, but this is pretty excessive. I'm not sure what kind of techniques you're using.

[TakeTwo]

I am not sure I understood you clearly... Are you saying that guys you got just connected to try to engage you in sex chat?

 

If this is correct, please block them right away and in no means feel guilty. This kind of talk in my opinion is ONLY for exclusive, long term, committed relationship unless you are looking for sex-only. Which you are not. What a creeps!

[Sportster2005]

 

Is this a sacrifice I need to make. Like one of those things you do for your partner. I've been eliminating guys based on how important this is to them. I hate it and it doesn't turn me on.

 

NO !! If you don't like it, don't do it. If you don't like guys that do it, don't date them. Do not under any circumstance tolerate unacceptable behavior. Tell these boys to bounce and raise your standards.

[Iggy5129]

I have never experienced this when online dating. And if I did I would block that creep so fast.

 

Maybe you need a better filter? I feel like pictures give a lot of insight into whether or not the guy is ceeepy. You can get a vibe from the pics and obviously what they say in their profile.

 

But yeah these creepers are not worth your time.

[SkellyWoozle]

They're getting cheap thrills from a "vulnerable" (naive) young woman. This is not how you go about engaging in a loving, caring relationship. Of course, sending sexy texts to your SO is fun and exciting but to a total stranger? No thanks. Personally, it's gross, degrading and incredibly creepy. Block and delete X

[Wiseman2]

But yeah these creepers are not worth your time.

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[Scoe141]

What types of guys are you chatting with where this has become excessive?

 

Like it's written, you are the company you keep. Unless you get rid of these guys, and or change the approach it's going to continue.

 

And for the record don't despair, not all men are like that.

[Almira23]

I have been on a couple of dating websites, and it seems like a lot of men my age are just there for a hook up or a casual relationship. Typically, men like this reveal themselves in the first few messages. Regardless of how good they look, if I don't want the same thing as them then I just ignore their message.

That being said if you are uncomfortable with something then don't do it.

Use the block button when you need to.

[ParisPaulette]

Nope, it's not normal. It's called you need to learn to block people and move on, it's a numbers game in OLD to find the good amongst all the time wasters and people too cheap to pay for a sex hotline - thereby putting hardworking phone sex operators around the world out of a job and contributing to our worsening economy.

 

Paris does not approve of cheap people who try to get things for free. These people fall into the same category as those who will go on that first date with you then sob about their ex or want you to play therapist somehow to them as well. Again, cheap. You want a therapist? Buy one and stop trying to get it for free.

 

Don't even get me started on how I feel when we're all at a party and someone gets wind of a lawyer or doctor then wants to sidle up to them and ask for "free" advice.

 

Anyways, all kidding aside no, you don't have to deal with that. You don't have to do crap if you don't want to, just block, delete, move on to find the good people. It's much the same way you don't really have to climb into that van with the dark-tinted windows just 'cause the guy (or gal, let's be fair here) slows down and screams at you to get in.

 

And yeah, it kind of goes with the territory sadly right up there with duck pics and sketchy offers to go over to some total stranger's house in the middle of the night, because nothing bad ever happens from doing that. (Rolls eyes)

 

Make your own standards, draw your own boundaries, if someone can't follow along then why would you want to bother with them in the first place?

[Matt3939]

You say you are serial dating are you meeting these people? Maybe you are giving them an in? I only start to talk sexual after I've had sex with somone. If you haven't met them and there already going there then just ignore them.

 

BTW Paris I like duck picks. The ones with the poof feathers on their head are cute.

[Knot2loud]

I've been eliminating guys based on how important this is to them. I hate it and it doesn't turn me on.

 

I like your plan. Kind of like the old Queen tune... Another one gone, another one gone... Another one bites the dust.

 

More women need to do exactly what you're doing then maybe more men will actually think of a woman as a person instead of a piece of...

 

Who knows... World Peace might even be achieved.

 

...........nah.

[Hermes]

Losers! Too goddam mean to pay the 1.50 gbp or more a minute on a sex hotline. Of course a place like OLD must seem like the promised land to these types.

 

Just cut them off, immediately. I can think of a few creative things here to say to them, but this is a respectable venue, so I won't lol.

[John John]

Read the title of your thread...read your post...was confused...then saw your location.

[Hermes]

Troll on board.

[MistyBlu]

Read the title of your thread...read your post...was confused...then saw your location.

 

What does this mean?

[John John]

What does this mean?

 

I'm from New York and was just making a joke...we all know dating in NYC can be a sh*t show at times

[Wiseman2]

Talk Dirty to Me!

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[Blue Spiral]

That's just how I talk to women in general. It's a quick way of sorting through women. If they're into it, great, if not, move on to the next one.

[ParisPaulette]

BTW Paris I like duck picks. The ones with the poof feathers on their head are cute.

 

Baby ducks are the best. Unfortunately there are people out there who apparently can't spell, so I would get a ton of wrong pics at times. Sigh, illiteracy is a real problem here in America.

 

LOVE this gif. That's me in the morning before coffee.

[Rising100]

Then dont do it.

It sounds like it makes you feel uncomfortable and if you dont know the person that well then its even worst. Just dont do it.

I find sexting a waste of time, its ok to talk about sex tho. And talking dirty only with someone you feel comfortable with.