FWB with potential? I'm confused about this relationship.

[hammiebee]

I recently decided to try out online dating, being open minded with what type of relationship I want. I'm sort of busy with school lately so it isn't ideal to jump into anything long-term. So after going out on many dates I found this guy that I actually got along with really well.

 

After asking what he wanted, he said he wanted to make friends and see if we progress from there. But a little later he said he's not really looking to jump into a full-blown relationship. So I figured it could be like an fwb type thing, which he thought was cool.

 

So we've been seeing each other several times and each time we do we end up hooking up, but also hanging out. He invites me to his house and we hang out watching T.V, going on walks, playing with his dogs and such and even go out to eat. The sex we have is absolutely incredible, like better than with anyone else, it's so natural and lasts so long I literally feel like Im in some kind of performance or doing a dance, it's so rhythmic and natural. After we have sex, we just cuddle all night, holding hands. He texts me the next day and tells me how amazing it is and that we have to get together again soon.

 

So we talked again the other day to clear things up and like he said before he said he's not anti-relationship at all, a full blown relationship isn't at the top of his list right now, but that things can become more serious in the future.

 

I honestly have no idea what to call this relationship, what do you think of it?

 

 

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**tl;dr**: FWB type situation with potential to grow in the future according to both of us. is this?! (He is 21, I am 19)

[Seymore]

So we talked again the other day to clear things up and like he said before he said he's not anti-relationship at all, a full blown relationship isn't at the top of his list right now, but that things can become more serious in the future.

 

 

 

No, that's certainly not what he said before - at least the way you put it.

 

 

 

he said he wanted to make friends and see if we progress from there. But a little later he said he's not really looking to jump into a full-blown relationship. So I figured it could be like an fwb type thing, which he thought was cool.

 

His story is beginning to change. If he said it how you told us, I'd gather he's starting to crack and getting feelings. Yet another FWB on this forum gone "feelings".

[HeartGoesOn]

I honestly have no idea what to call this relationship, what do you think of it?

 

It's called FWB's.

 

The question of, "Where do we stand" can usually be eliminated by waiting until you're in a committed relationship before becoming intimate. This is JMO, and I'm sure many will disagree.

[hammiebee]

I can't imagine he's already having feelings. We've only gotten together 3 times. The first convo we had was online before we met and the second one was a few days ago. Would he really be changing his mind already?

[itsallgrand]

I'd call it casual sex. That's just me. And people say all kinds of things when sex is even potentially on the table. I could guess he's hedging his bets - most women don't want to hear they are only viewed as a lay, even if they are agreeing to it themselves by actions. But that's a guess.

I don't see anything here to be confused about regardless - it's about sex and you both agreed to that.

[hammiebee]

We agreed it was about sex, just because we didn't know what to call it. We're still going on dates and stuff. Why would he say it might become something more if he wanted to be in a strict fwb situation. I was the one that called it that, anyway (mistakenly I guess lol)

[melancholy123]

FWB? Casual sex? Either of those or both?

[Birdie]

What do you want? That's really what matters here.

[Wiseman2]

It sounds like he's being honest. The sex is amazing, he's not looking for a relationship. It sounds like you are getting attached and hope it becomes dating?

he's not really looking to jump into a full-blown relationshipAfter we have sex, we just cuddle all night, holding hands. He texts me the next day and tells me how amazing it is and that we have to get together again soon.

[Jibralta]

I agree with the above. He's not looking for a relationship. The future could be tomorrow, or it could be ten years. How long are you planning to stay in limbo?

[ThatwasThen]

What do you want out of this 'thing' you two have going on? Wondering what he wants is useless wondering. Figure out what you want, if its more then sex and a bite to eat then ask for something more and if he doesn't want what you want then get yourself away from him before you become addicted and find it hard to rehab from him.

[Wiseman2]

If you can enjoy it for what it is that's great but try not to look into the future.

The sex we have is absolutely incredible, like better than with anyone else, it's so natural and lasts so long I literally feel like Im in some kind of performance or doing a dance, it's so rhythmic and natural.

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[reinventmyself]

Why would he say it might become something more if he wanted to be in a strict fwb situation

 

Verbal semantics.

Not to be confused that 'it' might become something more with - you. But more so, he stated what his intentions were overall with anyone he dated. It might - doesn't guarantee it will.

[SkellyWoozle]

" It Might" may also well mean "It Probably Won't" So if you're happy being "in limbo" then carry on seeing him. This is about you and what you want, really. He's already laid his cards on the table X

[willdation]

I think it takes a while to get to know someone, usually around 3 months...and if there is chemistry, people usually want a relationship around two months....I think most people before having the "exclusivity" talk and knowing each other better have somewhat of a FWB relationship anyways...