Struggling with my own anger

[deb101]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years things are great. He has a daughter that he has full custody of and she's awesome. But the last couple of weeks I have been struggling with a short temper, silly things are just driving my nuts and I feel horrible for the both of them. When I tried to sit down and discuss it with my boyfriend the only response I got out of him was "maybe you'really just not ment to be around children" and he has been avoiding me since. I want to work things out with myself but I have no support. I'm just looking for some advice.

[dirkdaring]

Try therapy. Ask to go together if you feel that's best, but you need to try it for yourself, no matter what.

[SkellyWoozle]

Speak to someone impartial and who is emotionally detached from the situation. Afterall, your BF has his daughters best interests at heart. You need to do this for you too and find out why you feel the way you do. Good luck X

[Wiseman2]

Are you living with him? Perhaps he's right that you should not take on this role. It may be time to reconsider the relationship because he and his child come as a package deal for life.

response I got out of him was "maybe you'really just not ment to be around children" and he has been avoiding me since.

[Andrina]

Examples would've been helpful. Do you have a hobby that you do by yourself, without the family? Maybe you need a breather away from home life responsibilities to recharge. Do you two have any alone time without the child, such as getting a sitter once or twice a month? Perhaps that's where your anger is coming from if there is no time set aside for just the adults.

[rosephase]

How much time do you spend with his daughter? How old is she? When you get angry how do you act towards her?

[moodindigo91]

Yeah examples would be helpful, I agree. How do you feel about children in general? I'm not great with kids, and don't think I could date someone who has young kids for that very reason. I know myself, and I wouldn't put myself in a situation where I'd be step-mother to young children.

 

You say his daughter is awesome, which is great. How old is she? Maybe he is right and you shouldn't be around kids? If that's the case it would be a major deal breaker for your boyfriend.

 

You need to go to therapy and/or anger management if your anger is getting in the way. Doing nothing about it is clearly not working for you and you've allowed it to infiltrate your relationship. It's up to YOU to take the step and seek outside help.