Rising100 Posted September 19, 2016 Share Posted September 19, 2016 I have a few questions and would appreciate any advice given. She is 21 and Im 35, I have always been attracted to women younger than myself but never this big of an age gap. To be honest it doesnt bother me, I dont even feel the age difference with her at all. However I have with other younger women. It doesnt seem to matter to her either, she has also been attracted to older men and her ex was also older than her. We share similar interests, she is into art just like I am and we discuss creative things. We also share same views about habits, sex, society and other things. One thing here is that its currently a long distance relationship. She lives in south carolina and I in another state. Also she says her family might not like me because of the age difference. Any women in relationships with older men, what can you tell me? Any men who have been through this, was it worth it? Link to comment
Hermes Posted September 19, 2016 Share Posted September 19, 2016 Go for it, Rising. There is nothing abnormal about it. See my posts on the other thread. Age is just a number, truly. Link to comment
moodindigo91 Posted September 19, 2016 Share Posted September 19, 2016 As long as you're compatible, age doesn't quite matter. Sometimes age plays a role in the incompatibility, but in this case it doesn't seem to hurt or hinder your connection. The long distance part is the part I'd worry the most about, to be honest. LDR's are notoriously difficult to maintain. Link to comment
j.man Posted September 19, 2016 Share Posted September 19, 2016 I think it's generally accepted that it's not until we hit the mid-20s range that we really settle into ourselves. I know that definitely held true for me, personally. No real right or wrong, though. Gauging it for myself, if I were to become single again, I'd definitely be open to dating an early 20s woman for fun, but I don't think I'd consider anyone younger than 25ish for long-term potential. That's just me, though. Link to comment
SkellyWoozle Posted September 19, 2016 Share Posted September 19, 2016 Age is but a number. Go for it. 15 year age gap between me and my SO (Though we're a bit older than you guys) And have been together 8 years. Older men are waaay sexier anyway! Who cares what anyone else thinks? Have fun! Link to comment
nao Posted September 19, 2016 Share Posted September 19, 2016 Just to have a short thing, sure, that you can have with a younger woman... But, if you think that at 21 she still needs to grow up, no matter how mature she seems right now, if you think how was you at age 21 you will probably realize that you changed a lot, you went trough a lot, that made you grow... Now, she still has to do that in the next 10-20 years, when you will be 40-50... and so on... each age has its own problems, specificity... I am 39 I would not date a much younger man, I would consider we would never be at the same page, because the time/age gap, sure we could have same hobbies, point of views etc., but still he would be almost a different generation... They are calling the age difference an age "gap", for a reason, because there is a gap between the 2 of you, you may ignore that, right now in the present, while you are in love, but still time will probably tell otherwise... Link to comment
Rising100 Posted September 19, 2016 Author Share Posted September 19, 2016 Go for it, Rising. There is nothing abnormal about it. See my posts on the other thread. Age is just a number, truly. Thanks, I see you have experience in that yourself. How should I go about the family tho? She says they wont like it and her family is very important, yet she still wants to be with me. Link to comment
Hermes Posted September 19, 2016 Share Posted September 19, 2016 Can't say, Rising. In my case, and back then, my family actually liked the guy very much. If I'd decided to marry him I know it would not have presented a problem to then. Then again my parents were extremely sensible, well-travelled, well educated people, worldly. And I was very level-headed for my age, that has to be said. Naturally enough, if he'd been some kind of loser, unpleasant, unsuitable, then of course they'd have said something, regardless of whether he was 23, 28 or 34. Why does she think they won't like it? They haven't met you yet. Then again if she is going to choose her family over you, maybe it is best to give this one a miss. Yes? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted September 19, 2016 Share Posted September 19, 2016 It sounds like the only obstacles are outside of the relationship and that is the distance and her concern about parental approval. These are solvable in that you or she could eventually move and you may want to date a while and secure the relationship before she springs it on her folks. Are they ultra conservative or religious? its currently a long distance relationship. She lives in south carolina and I in another state.Also she says her family might not like me because of the age difference Link to comment
Rising100 Posted September 20, 2016 Author Share Posted September 20, 2016 I think it's generally accepted that it's not until we hit the mid-20s range that we really settle into ourselves. I know that definitely held true for me, personally. No real right or wrong, though. Gauging it for myself, if I were to become single again, I'd definitely be open to dating an early 20s woman for fun, but I don't think I'd consider anyone younger than 25ish for long-term potential. That's just me, though. Thank you for sharing that. Link to comment
Rising100 Posted September 20, 2016 Author Share Posted September 20, 2016 Can't say, Rising. In my case, and back then, my family actually liked the guy very much. If I'd decided to marry him I know it would not have presented a problem to then. Then again my parents were extremely sensible, well-travelled, well educated people, worldly. And I was very level-headed for my age, that has to be said. Naturally enough, if he'd been some kind of loser, unpleasant, unsuitable, then of course they'd have said something, regardless of whether he was 23, 28 or 34. Why does she think they won't like it? They haven't met you yet. Then again if she is going to choose her family over you, maybe it is best to give this one a miss. Yes? She says she would still be with me regardless. However her family means alot to her and she hopes they like me. Link to comment
Rising100 Posted September 20, 2016 Author Share Posted September 20, 2016 It sounds like the only obstacles are outside of the relationship and that is the distance and her concern about parental approval. These are solvable in that you or she could eventually move and you may want to date a while and secure the relationship before she springs it on her folks. Are they ultra conservative or religious? Not ultra conservative, no. But she says they wouldnt like the age gap, specially her dad since he is very protective of her. Link to comment
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