She said she wants to focus on herself please help!

[randombox]

So recently I broke up with my girlfriend because I kept bringing back something from her past. I know its something I should have moved on from. Anyways, after four months of dating, I broke up with her so I can step back and fix myself because we already tried fixing it during a relationship. I just kept hurting us and I did not want that but I still want the relationship. Beforehand she said she didn't want to take a break. Two days later I felt like I was gonna lose her so I asked if she wanted to get back. She said no because she felt like we were gonna hurt each other again and she wants to focus on herself. Two days after we decided to talk in person. I acted professional and kept my head up. I told her I'm working on myself but she says its too early to get back (I understand that). She also said that maybe in the future if she still had feelings she would want to get back. She still loves me as of right now but she's scared about getting back. She really wanted this to work out. She said that she has no control over what would happen to her feelings for me in the future and us getting back could never happen. We have both had sex for the first time in our lives with each other and we both agreed that it was a big value we gave to each other. She hasn't deleted the pictures of us on her Instagram but it has only been a week. She also watches my Snapchat stories everyday but I sometimes don't watch hers because I'm trying to move on for now. What I am worried about is that she'll move on and not love me anymore. I really want her back. I'm new to all this so I wanted to know if she is 100% done from your guy's perspective and what I should do. Thanks.

[SooSad33]

What you should do... is your best to back away completely and leave her be.. to think.

 

Yes, damage has been done and way too soon to 'think' anything has changed or improved between either of you.

Repeated break ups should tell you something...

Another thing is the fact that you've been at her about something affecting you.. from the past? Not a good thing to do.. but it also shows that you're affected in a negative and this isn't going away.

 

 

Best to just back off, totally. Give her respect and dont harass her in any way.

 

Things may not work out in the end here... it happens, but you tried. I know.. it hurts.

[randombox]

What you should do... is your best to back away completely and leave her be.. to think.

 

Yes, damage has been done and way too soon to 'think' anything has changed or improved between either of you.

Repeated break ups should tell you something...

Another thing is the fact that you've been at her about something affecting you.. from the past? Not a good thing to do.. but it also shows that you're affected in a negative and this isn't going away.

 

 

Best to just back off, totally. Give her respect and dont harass her in any way.

 

Things may not work out in the end here... it happens, but you tried. I know.. it hurts.

 

Ok thanks for the advice. I am hurt but surprisingly I didn't break down or cry but a little depressed. I've started the NC challenge and I hope it will help me in any sort of way. She did say she is willing to get back again when I completely let go of her past in the future. Now that might just be a nice way of saying that she is done. While we were in a relationship, things started to improve but one day it slipped and I was just fed up with myself. She also offered to be friends later down the road if we do lose feelings for each other.

[SooSad33]

Well.. don't go ahead with any high hopes.... Break ups are difficult and to be friends.. thy often offer that to stay nice.

it's best to NOT be that.. when you still have all those feelings. Gets too complicated.

 

Best to just to your best to walk away...

 

I know it hurts Life is an exprience. Sadly not always good.

[randombox]

Well.. don't go ahead with any high hopes.... Break ups are difficult and to be friends.. thy often offer that to stay nice.

it's best to NOT be that.. when you still have all those feelings. Gets too complicated.

 

Best to just to your best to walk away...

 

I know it hurts Life is an exprience. Sadly not always good.

 

Yeah it hurts because it was over something because of me. I'll completely back away. I'll giver her space and move on. I guess if we do end up crossing paths I'll try again but reality is the reality. We never know whats gonna happen. Thanks for the advice. If something comes up I'll post it.