GirlNextDoor33 Posted September 17, 2016 Share Posted September 17, 2016 I dated this guy for 6 months long story short he cheated. I left he wanted me back so I went back to see if we could get past it. Along with that and his messy family we broke up I left. In March we started communicating again. Went out a few times butdoes anything I ask him to, we do things together, and anytime we have days off work together he's at my place. Like he spends the night the first 2 times he slept on the couch but now he gets in the bed with me but we haven't had sex. When he gets up it's like he rushes to leave like we just had a one night stand. Lol I don't get it. So does anyone know why this is? Is he not attracted to me anymore or is he just trying to ease his way in? Link to comment
ParisPaulette Posted September 17, 2016 Share Posted September 17, 2016 If someone cheated on you in less time than it takes for a blouse from your local cheap clothing store to wear out it's time to walk away and be done with it. He wants you back as a backup girl until he finds someone else. He's putting in zero effort, couldn't even stay faithful at a point when most people are still in the honeymoon stage, and now won't touch you. Explain to me again why you think this is going to turn out well for you, because I just don't see someone who can't stay faithful in that time frame ever being a good bet for honesty and loyalty and a sane emotionally healthy partner. Honestly it sounds like he's just passing time with you until he finds someone else or maybe he doesn't have a place to stay and is hoping you'll let him move in and mooch off of you. It's time to cut him loose. He's going through the motions, but barely and that means he has another agenda than sincerely wanting to be a good boyfriend to you. P.S. And no he's not attracted to you any more. He treats you like a buddy to do things with on his day off, not like you're his girlfriend. That's not "easing the way back in" at all. If someone wants you they make that known and again you aren't even into a year relationship with this guy and he's already treating you like you all have been married 50 years with the no sex and no touch. If you want a sexless relationship with someone who simply wants a hangout pal this will work for you, but I don't think that's what you want. Why not tell him, "This isn't working out for me, goodbye." Then you block and delete him and go find someone who wants the same things you do. You've broken up two times already and can't make it work, it's because it can't work. He's the problem in how he treats you, you're the problem in taking him back over and over expecting a different result and not getting it. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted September 17, 2016 Share Posted September 17, 2016 Unfortunately he sounds like a player. You need to stop seeing him and communicating with him to heal from all this. He's just using you for hookups now, not trying to rebuild anything. Have you read the book "He's Just Not That Into You"? It may give you some tips on deciphering who is really interested and who is just playing you, like this guy.I dated this guy for 6 months he cheated.When he gets up it's like he rushes to leave like we just had a one night stand. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted September 17, 2016 Share Posted September 17, 2016 If someone cheated on you in less time than it takes for a blouse from your local cheap clothing store to wear out it's time to walk away and be done with it. He wants you back as a backup girl until he finds someone else. He's putting in zero effort, couldn't even stay faithful at a point when most people are still in the honeymoon stage, and now won't touch you. Explain to me again why you think this is going to turn out well for you, because I just don't see someone who can't stay faithful in that time frame ever being a good bet for honesty and loyalty and a sane emotionally healthy partner. Honestly it sounds like he's just passing time with you until he finds someone else or maybe he doesn't have a place to stay and is hoping you'll let him move in and mooch off of you. It's time to cut him loose. He's going through the motions, but barely and that means he has another agenda than sincerely wanting to be a good boyfriend to you. P.S. And no he's not attracted to you any more. He treats you like a buddy to do things with on his day off, not like you're his girlfriend. That's not "easing the way back in" at all. If someone wants you they make that known and again you aren't even into a year relationship with this guy and he's already treating you like you all have been married 50 years with the no sex and no touch. If you want a sexless relationship with someone who simply wants a hangout pal this will work for you, but I don't think that's what you want. Why not tell him, "This isn't working out for me, goodbye." Then you block and delete him and go find someone who wants the same things you do. You've broken up two times already and can't make it work, it's because it can't work. He's the problem in how he treats you, you're the problem in taking him back over and over expecting a different result and not getting it. I cannot understand why you would accept this guy back in your life! Expect more for yourself! Link to comment
SkellyWoozle Posted September 18, 2016 Share Posted September 18, 2016 Have some respect for yourself. His guy is keeping his options open and using you in between. He doesn't care about you... He just wants you for one thing - a backup plan until the right girl comes along. Sorry to sound harsh but this is not a healthy relationship and there's only one person who will get hurt in this. You. Look after you and find someone who loves and cares for you and respects you for who you are X Link to comment
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