Sarahhh q2346 Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 HI Me and my bf had a great relationship we it took him 3 years to start dating due to him not trusting girls and he said when he met me he felt something and couldn't miss out on the opertunity to be with me he was kind caring and wabted to spend all his time with me after 7months I feel pregnant my first reaction was I was scared and that I didn't want to be pregnant that was my first reaction I feel terrible about that I wish I could take it all back anyway I lost the baby 3 weeks later I told him I was at the hospital and he wouldn't come up because he had an argument with my parents the next day he finished completely with me saying that too much has happened for him to be with me and I can't help myself from missing him. I'm blaming myself we had a fight a week later and he said sure you didn't want my baby anyway which isn't true if he had of been there for me he would have known I changed my mind and was happy. Could do with some advice Thank you Link to comment
Hollyj Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 How old are you two? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 Did you both want kids soon soon after dating? It sounds like too much too soon and he couldn't handle any of it.after 7 months I feel pregnant. I lost the baby 3 weeks later I told him I was at the hospital next day he finished completely with me saying that too much has happened for him to be with me Link to comment
Sarahhh q2346 Posted September 16, 2016 Author Share Posted September 16, 2016 How old are you two? I am 21 and he is 25 x Link to comment
Sarahhh q2346 Posted September 16, 2016 Author Share Posted September 16, 2016 He wanted kids and was very excited then he left me after I lost the baby Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 He wanted kids and was very excited then he left me after I lost the baby I'm sorry for your loss, but were you both financially able to provide for a baby? Either way, it appears you didn't know each other long enough to be planning on having a baby. It's a touch lesson to learn, yet when you decide to move forward, you'll still land on your feet. Link to comment
Sarahhh q2346 Posted September 16, 2016 Author Share Posted September 16, 2016 Thank you we were not ready for a baby though I do think he wanted one but wasn't working full time and I do really miss him Do you think I could contact him to talk? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 Did he end the relationship? Do you live together? Do you want to get back together? You can contact him but it may be hurtful. we were not ready for a baby though I do think he wanted one but wasn't working full time Link to comment
Sarahhh q2346 Posted September 16, 2016 Author Share Posted September 16, 2016 I lived with him and we were planning on getting a house I know he loved me at the time but he broke up with he saying he needed his own space and that he still loved me and probably always will he also said he never.felt this way about anyone I believe he did love me it took him 3 years to get into a relationship because of how is ex was. he wanted the baby I think he was rushing abit with us and I think because I didn't want a family yet he said we wanted different things Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 I don't think he really wanted children to begin with and when you lost the baby (sorry that happened to you) he felt it was a good time to get out of the relationship so that he could start "not trusting girls" again. Did you try to have this baby or does "I fell pregnant" mean it was an accident and not planned? Link to comment
Seraphim Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 I am sorry for your loss. Hugs. Link to comment
Sarahhh q2346 Posted September 16, 2016 Author Share Posted September 16, 2016 He talked about children with me saying he wanted too. It was me that didn't want any yet and when I fell pregnant it wasn't planned but he was happy I think I hurt him because he said sorry I wasn't good enough to be a dad stuff like that Link to comment
Sarahhh q2346 Posted September 16, 2016 Author Share Posted September 16, 2016 I am sorry for your loss. Hugs. Thank you Victoria.. it was a hard time I'm just trying me hardest to get over things Link to comment
Seraphim Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 Thank you Victoria.. it was a hard time I'm just trying me hardest to get over things Well ,losing a baby is not something you get over.( I lost 4) That is kind of a misnomer. It is that you learn to deal with it much better. That takes time and it might take a year or better or less it depends on the person. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 But someone who takes off when life is hard is not someone worth keeping. Link to comment
Sarahhh q2346 Posted September 16, 2016 Author Share Posted September 16, 2016 But someone who takes off when life is hard is not someone worth keeping. Oh I'm so sorry for what has happened to you its still very recent for me when I leave the house all I see is babies and it hurts I think that is why I am so upset he left when I needed him Thank you for the advice x Link to comment
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