What to text? Or how should I contact her

[Midnightclub7]

So I met this girl over a month ago and I got her number and said Id like to see her again so we texted for a bit but she was awful at texting. So am I but she would take a day or sometimes even two days to respond but then sometimes respond quickly enough. We then stopped texting until one night while out with friends I saw her and she approached me the minute she saw me.we ended making out and she said to me we should go on a date however her friend said she is terrible with her phone, bearly uses it and never had credit so don't worry if she doesn't reply immediately. So 2 days after I saw her that night I text her to see if she wanted to meet up and I got no reply so about week later after calling it quits my friend said I should just give it one last go and text her again so I did and she replied within 5 minutes saying she would love to meet up. So we meet up the following week and it went well and when I walked her home she said text me when I get home so I did and she replied the next day..I asked her did she enjoy her night and we talked about work at and stuff and half way through the conversation she just stopped texting so I waited 2 days until I text her saying hey how is your day going I was just seeing if you would like to meet up again. I got no reply but this has been the third time that she hasn't replied 2 of those times being before we met up so I'm not sure as to what I should do

[dirkdaring]

Sounds like you already know. She's bad with texting, simple as that. Her friends say the same thing.

 

Easy answer -- stop texting. CALL HER. If you want to ask her out, just call and ask!

[DancingFool]

good grief....pick up phone, call her, arrange date. STOP the texting

[Wiseman2]

Texting is not dating or a relationship, it's a ticket to the friendzone. Stop blowing up her phone and focus on in person dates. Use texting for brief contact and setting up dates not to have extended convos in lieu of dating.

So we meet up the following week and it went well and when I walked her home she said text me when I get home so I did and she replied the next day..I asked her did she enjoy her night and we talked about work at and stuff and half way through the conversation she just stopped texting

same girl?

[SherrySher]

I will point out the obvious as well here, so her friend says she's bad at texting, BUT, if she was as into you as you are into her, she would surely be trying to get a hold of you, bad texter or not, right? I am guessing she has your number and if she had a nice time when you went out, why is she not trying to see if you contacted her or having so many fuzzy feelings that she is not trying to get a hold of you?? That one does not make sense to me.

[Wiseman2]

Good point she is probably loosing interest rapidly from the excessive clingy texting.

if she was as into you as you are into her, she would surely be trying to get a hold of you, bad texter or not, right?

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[jjkk]

I agree with SherrySher, "bad" at texting or not, if she's into you she will respond, especially to texts asking to meet up. Let it go, no need to contact her again. Note for the future...less texting, more face to face interaction. Best of luck!

[DancingFool]

Sorry but I hate texting and if the guy insists on just that and worse, tries to carry on text convos I'll do the same - drop the conversation and walk away. IF he can't pick up the phone and call me and set up a date, he is not worth my time and whatever interest I may have in him is sliding toward zero.

 

So I'll just restate the obvious - stop texting her, call her, set up date, date in real life, talk face to face. This does not need to be complicated. Once someone indicated so clearly that they despise texting, pay attention and trust that they mean it.