I have a crush on a girl but she has a bf

[breakestefany]

hello i new to this and sorry if a have a terrible grammar I don't speak in English very well.

 

So I had a crush with this girl for almost 1 year and half or so. And she obviously didn't know about my existence   but this last months i notice she start doing eye contact with me. A lot (or maybe it's only my imagination) cuz sometimes she would be walking and will steal glances. But there is some other days when she doesn't look at me like at all.

 

And that confused me so much, that put me on the edge sometimes and I'm like "what the heck?? "

 

And I (so stupid) go check her facebook and watch some of her post with her boyfriend and that really REALLY break my heart. I want to talk to her say 'hi' at least. But I can't I'm shy, I have brakets, glasses. and my face when i look at her it must be horrible hahah . but idk.

 

So what can i do to move on from this fcking crush that is driving me dammmmn crazy. or should I talk to her ?

(in October I will be taking my brakets off and I think that would gimme more confidence soooo again idk) Thanks in advance and sorry again If I wrote someting wrong.

[lostandhurt]

She has a bf so stay away from her. Since you have a crush on her you cannot be just friends so do yourself a favor and focus on someone that is single and available.

 

Crushes happen all the time but obsessing over someone that you cannot have is not healthy.

 

Once you get your braces off use that as a boost and start looking around at other women you have been ignoring while you crush on this other girl. I am sure there are plenty of others out there so work up some confidence and talk to someone other women.

 

Lost

[Wiseman2]

She may just be being friendly when she sees you at school. She has a bf, so try to socialize with other girls rather than creep her social media and torture yourself with a crush.

So I had a crush with this girl for almost 1 year and half or so. I (so stupid) go check her facebook and watch some of her post with her boyfriend and that really REALLY break my heart.

[Iggy5129]

Do you know anything about this woman other than what she looks like? If you're unable to say hi to her I'm guessing you've never really spoken to her. How are you able to find her on Facebook without speaking to her? Also, she has a boyfriend. I would try to find someone not taken. You've already wasted 1.5 years of your life on a complete fantasy.

[moodindigo91]

Yeesh, I'm sorry. This sounds kind of awful, but I also think you are just infatuated with her. You know nothing about her, she has a boyfriend and she doesn't notice you. If you did talk to her, you may soon discover that you don't actually like her at all, but I wouldn't recommend talking to her since she has a boyfriend. You should do your best to move on because this is unhealthy. You shouldn't dwell on people like that. It's a waste of time for you.

[breakestefany]

Yeesh, I'm sorry. This sounds kind of awful, but I also think you are just infatuated with her. You know nothing about her, she has a boyfriend and she doesn't notice you. If you did talk to her, you may soon discover that you don't actually like her at all, but I wouldn't recommend talking to her since she has a boyfriend. You should do your best to move on because this is unhealthy. You shouldn't dwell on people like that. It's a waste of time for you.

i know that u and the others are right but its hard no to see her when Im at school. I also know I have little problem with obsession Lol. Do you have a tip to fix that?? Cuz I don't wanna be like this in the future

[breakestefany]

Do you know anything about this woman other than what she looks like? If you're unable to say hi to her I'm guessing you've never really spoken to her. How are you able to find her on Facebook without speaking to her? Also, she has a boyfriend. I would try to find someone not taken. You've already wasted 1.5 years of your life on a complete fantasy.

 

I did speak to her (I was with some of my friends) I was nervous but I tried to do my best and act normal. it went pretty well she laugh at my dumbs jokes but yeah I was a friendly way. And its difficult for me to find other girls (I'm not out yet (plus I don't know what I am ) so no one knows about this) Do you have some tips for this kind of obsession that I have??

[Gary Snyder]

Go date women who are single and actually available.

[Wiseman2]

Are you female try to "date" a female? You need to be honest with yourself and others. Don't hang around a straight girl as 'friends" if you have other feelings. What do you mean you don't know what you are? Bi? Lesbian? Questioning?

I'm not out yet plus I don't know what I am so no one knows about this.

[breakestefany]

Are you female try to "date" a female? You need to be honest with yourself and others. Don't hang around a straight girl as 'friends" if you have other feelings. What do you mean you don't know what you are? Bi? Lesbian? Questioning?

its difficult. I don't see myself with a man in my life (like it wouldn't be My life), but thinking about living with a woman makes me feel happy but at the same time scared me, so there is when I freak out and think every guy that pass by me are handsome (when I know they aren't). I never had a crush in a boy (only in a teacher cuz he is so tiny )

 

And I don't feel like having a girlfriend rn, I just wanna feel a connection with a girl, having her to hug her, laugh with her, etc. I want to experiment, but like I said I'm scared. And I'm not an outgoing person. I'm soooo reserved to the point I end up hurting myself (emotionally) but no one knows that.

 

Have to say that this girls hit me hard, I'm trying to move on but it's hard and my friends noticed my behavior.

[Wiseman2]

As long as you are this confused why not just be close friends with both boys and girls until your sexual orientation emerges more? At this point it seems you are just lonely and wants some friends and affection. You don't have to map out your future right now. Do not randomly "experiment" on people. A straight girl may stop being friends with you if you try that.

I don't see myself with a man in my life but thinking about living with a woman makes me feel happy but at the same time scared me, so there is when I freak out and think every guy that pass by me are handsome

And I don't feel like having a girlfriend rn, I just wanna feel a connection with a girl, having her to hug her, laugh with her, etc.

[breakestefany]

As long as you are this confused why not just be close friends with both boys and girls until your sexual orientation emerges more? At this point it seems you are just lonely and wants some friends and affection. You don't have to map out your future right now. Do not randomly "experiment" on people. A straight girl may stop being friends with you if you try that.

Thanks for your advices buddy! We'll see what's gonna happens In the future