It's been months since we broke up but I'm still not over her.

[Manonajourney]

We broke up in January. She was my first ever girlfriend, but she had had previous relationships. After dating for almost 2 years she broke up with me and moved on to the next guy almost right away. At the time I was devastated because at the height of our relationship, she was everything I could ever ask for. she was super caring and kind. The stuff she did afterwards wasn't who I remembered dating. I have very low self confidence, and have troubles meeting people and making friends. She used to put up with all my insecurities. She moved on for good very fast, but here I am starting school again and seeing her and still getting that twisty feeling and the feeling to snoop around to she what she's doing and who's she with. I don't want to get back with her at all. But I don't know why I'm still feeling like this after 8 months. Since she is pretty she had a lot of success with guys after we broke up, but I haven't been with anyone. (I'm probably average looking). I'm wondering if I actually miss her, or because I can't get someone else and I just feel lonely. To my question, she's in one of my classes, and we bump into each other a lot. I still have so many feelings of resentment while she's all ready to be friends. I find myself looking over my shoulder and being paranoid that i'll run into her. What can I do do move on? She still has a hold on me and I want to get to that point where I see her and think of her as the equivalent of someone I used to go to high school with and not care. Help?

[Wiseman2]

It would be best to stop keeping tabs on her and instead after all this time start dating again. There are plenty of nice girls at school and on dating apps.

 

Don't be "friends" with her, just be polite and make sure you are seen talking to people, smiling, laughing, joining groups, clubs, sports, etc and moving on like a man, not pining like a puppy.

I am starting school again and seeing her and still getting that twisty feeling and the feeling to snoop around to she what she's doing and who's she with.I don't know why I'm still feeling like this after 8 months.

same girl?

[Manonajourney]

Yup, lol same girl. If I could, i would start dating again. This girl was my first for everything, and I don't even know how it happened the first time. I get literally zero matches on dating apps and haven't really clicked with anyone new in all this time. And like I said, I have low self confidence. Yea and that's just what I'm doing. I'm trying to get more involved in school this year and take up some hobbies, hopefully things will get better.

[Seymore]

Are ya still Facebook friends?

[Manonajourney]

Nope, she's been blocked for months.

[Seymore]

Well done!

 

The good thing about school is there's plenty of homework and stuff to do to stay busy, so the next time you "bump into her", you've got homework to do. Maybe join one of the school clubs? Being a part of something extracurricular automatically gives you a bit of extra self-worth, and that'll give you another thing to do where you have no time for her. I wouldn't give her the time of day, let alone give her the gift of giving YOU the time of day.

 

Either way, after two years, it's not abnormal to still feel down. You have feelings. I will tell you this: If you still harbor resentment against your ex, give the dating apps a rest for a while.

[Longview01]

I never had a serious relationship at school but I imagine it would be like having a relationship with a work colleague?