my gf doesn't show me nothing

[abdul]

I am 24 she is 30 been we have 3 kids we meet when she was 4 mounth preg with her 1st child the father does not want to do out with him so I brung him up had 2 more kids but the problem is she has never insgtated sex rarely showed affection what shall I do?

[moodindigo91]

Talk to her about it.

[abdul]

Re: ive talked to her loads not worked im on the edge of leaving bt my kids are holding me back

[Jibralta]

You can leave, and still be there for them.

[Wiseman2]

She has a lot of kids for someone who doesn't like sex. Maybe she's exhausted from all the kids? Why did you start dating a 4 mos pregnant girl?

I am 24 she is 30 been we have 3 kids we meet when she was 4 mounth preg with her 1st child the father does not want to do out with him so I brung him up had 2 more kids but the problem is she has never insgtated sex rarely showed affection what shall I do?

[abdul]

Re: I liked her alot its me that instigate s sex not her

[abdul]

Re ; I liked her alot ao I got with hwr dispate that sometimes I feel like im literally walking on egg shells

[Jibralta]

Like wiseman said, four kids is tiring. Maybe she's exhausted. Is there something else you can do to help her out with the house & kids?

[abdul]

I do try to help I come home from workI do help a lilittle but when im of I help alot I have tiring job as it 12 on 12of 4 days

[abdul]

Pluss we have 3 kids lol

Like wiseman said, four kids is tiring. Maybe she's exhausted. Is there something else you can do to help her out with the house & kids?

[Jibralta]

still tiring!

[IAmFCA]

Somewhere there is a study aand many articles published about the research that says: when the man takes responsibility, not just does the work but takes responsibility for making sure its done so that his effort is predictable and is something he does on his own, that when that happens, the woman is more likely to desire sex later, and even to initiate it. The payoffs are multi-layered - his responsibility for home-based work enhances team work, a sense of a shared purpose, trust, and friendship. All of those things enhance one's physical intimacy as well.

[abdul]

Pluss we have 3 kids lol

Yes I know but I was like thiss from the beginning I have told her how I feel but she dont try it hurts get rejected all the time

 

 

still tiring!

[qwaspolk82]

I am 24 she is 30 been we have 3 kids we meet when she was 4 mounth preg with her 1st child the father does not want to do out with him so I brung him up had 2 more kids but the problem is she has never insgtated sex rarely showed affection what shall I do?

 

What? Is even remotely proper English hard to use?

 

Anyway - talk to her about it. Some people are just shy. My ex used to complain that I never flirted with him or came on to him and he had to initiate it all the time. I told him I'm not good at flirting. I feel awkward about being 'sexy' or initiating. I would think of things in my head but they would not go so well when I would try to do them. I've always been someone who lets people initiate with me - especially with flirting and sex. Then I know the person is interested. There had been times I would initiate and he'd say he wasn't in the mood so it made me not want to at all.

 

I also was not raised in a home that showed a lot of affection. We all knew we loved each other but PDA isn't a thing. Even now when my brothers and I hug it's almost painful lol. We're just not affectionate people most of the time. That's not a bad thing. There are other ways to show you care and love someone than constant PDA.