Brutal555 Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 My gf and I broke up about a month ago, and now I heard that she's in a hospital and is supposed to have her nose operation. I don't know anything about it. I saw her yesterday with her male friend and just said "hi" and moved on. Now I'm waiting for a friend that works in a hospital to tell me more informations about it. I was thinking about just simply calling her mom to see what's up? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 Is this elective surgery? If curiosity is getting to you, let the friend talk to you, but resist the urge to call any of her friends/family.I heard that she's in a hospital and is supposed to have her nose operation. Now I'm waiting for a friend that works in a hospital to tell me more informations about it.This girl? Link to comment
Brutal555 Posted September 8, 2016 Author Share Posted September 8, 2016 Yeah, it's the same girl. I kind of feel like I should show at least a little bit of caring just so I can feel relieved and btw. I found out that the guy was just a friend Link to comment
greta96 Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 She is your ex, she ended your relationship for a reason. Respect her decision because she won't appreciate the "caring". Breaking NC under the pretense of caring is so desperate and obvious! Especially since it's not like she's sick or has been in an accident. Link to comment
SkellyWoozle Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 Are you just being "nosey"? (I'll get my coat) Joking aside.... leave her be, she probably won't appreciate it. Maybe your friend can find something out without prying too much. Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 I agree with the first two posters. Don't interlope in her life anymore. If you are genuinely worried about her recovery then just ask the friend to keep you informed if anything goes awry. You don't need to know if everything goes well. Needing to know that is just self-serving you in some way and not really motivated out of concern. She will know that. Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 Your friend who works in the hospital has no business telling you about any patient's condition there! He/she could and should lose their job for that. Mind your own business! Link to comment
j.man Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 You're entering creepster territory, my man. Link to comment
sophie274 Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 Your friend who works in the hospital has no business telling you about any patient's condition there! He/she could and should lose their job for that. Mind your own business! Seriously! I hope that friend will tell you it would be unethical and illegal for him to divulge any information about any patient to you. If your ex wanted you to know about her surgery, she would have told you directly and she would be in contact with you now. Don't call her mom or try to snoop on her. Link to comment
DancingFool Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 Yeah, it's the same girl. I kind of feel like I should show at least a little bit of caring just so I can feel relieved and btw. I found out that the guy was just a friend Except that it won't come across as caring, it will come across as creepy stalker stuff. You seriously need to butt out of her life. Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 i'm not sure that anyone would be in trouble for saying she's doing fine. Now if the friend accesses her medical records without permission or he/she gives Op details about those records, well then, yes. It would be unethical. Link to comment
dave_1966 Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 Stop stalking her, it's creepy and a sure fire way of getting a restraining order. She won't appreciate it, and in a few weeks time you'll really regret doing it. Link to comment
Brutal555 Posted September 8, 2016 Author Share Posted September 8, 2016 You guys are right. If It wasn't for that friend I wouldn't even know anything. She was my friend for 2 years before we got into relationship so those memories sometimes hit my head. But right, none of my bussiness right now Link to comment
DancingFool Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 Just do yourself a favor and ask your friends not to bring her up to you anymore. Your friend in the hospital is being unethical to boot. Just say thanks, but I really don't want to hear about her and would appreciate it if you don't bring her up again with me. It will help you a lot. Getting used to not having someone in your life is hard. It's really about changing a whole lot of little habits and it is painful for everyone, but the rip off the band aid approach really does work best. The more you focus on creating new habits and memories that don't involve her the faster you'll be happy again. Link to comment
Brutal555 Posted September 9, 2016 Author Share Posted September 9, 2016 I feel so strange this morning and can't get this out of my head. But the right decision would be not to get involved Link to comment
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