Sobb44 Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 We were best friends and met at work. We feel in love. We had experiences that were pretty intense for even a seasoned couple from pretty much the start of our relationship becoming official. The long and the short of it....He has a chronic illness that he only became recently aware of while in relationship with me. The care that was needed was increasing and the drain on my finances was too much. We are now broken up. I said some things he did somethings. I was pathetic and now....I'm struggling doing no after three months. I do ok for a few then I just text to make sure he is ok. When he doesn't reply I'm let down. He only recently started not replying. ....I want to be with him I know I've messed up and circumstances for his health are unlikely to change. Obviously he is fine with out me. I'm just hurt...how do I stay strong and not contact him like a jerk Link to comment
musicman777 Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 Sounds to me like it was a positive move to end this relationship. When it's "true love", people don't do self-destructive things to end the relationship. Move on and stop contacting this guy. I'm very sorry to hear he has a chronic illness. I hate to say it; unless you were married to the guy, you didn't have any obligation to take care of him, including financially and things. I think it would be best for you to just cut him out of your life. You shouldn't have to deal with some guy who has a chronic illness. Not that people like that aren't deserving of love, but I'm sure he has a family and things to help care for him. Sounds to me like he's not in a place to be in a committed relationship with someone. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 You did the right thing even though you may miss him/having a partner. it does sound like he's more independent that you thought. That's ok at least there are no guilt trips. Why were you paying for all this stuff?He has a chronic illness that he only became recently aware of while in relationship with me. The care that was needed was increasing and the drain on my finances was too much. We are now broken up. Link to comment
Sobb44 Posted September 9, 2016 Author Share Posted September 9, 2016 You did the right thing even though you may miss him/having a partner. it does sound like he's more independent that you thought. That's ok at least there are no guilt trips. Why were you paying for all this stuff? Well he wasn't able to work. His family didn't seem to either want to help or feel like they should while he and I were together. So I did the care taking and supported him. Now that he qualifies for disability...His responses to my texts etc have dwindled. As far as care taking and being indeoendent. Well he is staying with them and he is getting physical assistance from them I guess as needed. It's a shame cause not only was I there during the darkest uncertain times...I also wasn't there for the money. His circumstances changed while we were together. I stuck by him until it threatened the ability for me to provide for everyone (I also have a child) basicly I feel used. But I guess it could be worse....I did feel guilty because I couldn't do it all. But I guess he put me in a situation where I shouldn't have been made to feel like I had to do it all. Link to comment
Sobb44 Posted September 9, 2016 Author Share Posted September 9, 2016 What did I do that was self destructive from your perspective? Link to comment
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