I don't feel good enough for him. Romance is dead and so is the bedroom.

[princessred]

Is it possible that someone can just lose interest after 6 weeks? I pray that it's a no, but I'm 100% positive it's a hell yes. So basically me and my boyfriend of 6 weeks were really happy together for like two weeks, constantly in the bedroom and laughing, being cute, saying soppy stuff, being romantic all the time.. Until one night I found flirty messages to his friends... ever since then I've found more and more stuff about him, our trust has died and we just slowly drifted apart.. we argue a lot.. we have good days and bad days really. Some weeks we will be fine for a few days and quite happy and flirty.. but I've said time and time again I don't feel good enough for him anymore cause its always me who goes after him when I'm in the mood.. I've tried making an effort, dressing up for him, doing what he wants etc.. but no... he just don't seem that bothered about it, we've talked about it and he'll say a bunch of stuff to make me feel guilty.. his penis isn't working, or having a bad day, being depressed, family issues, his Gran died (Which she did..a year ago) I understand all of that but i can't help but feel shut out... we don't send soppy messages anymore or talk about our feelings.. we're not romantic.. more things have come out that we don't like about each other and its just.. gone. I feel really panicked right now cause I'm about to go on holiday and we were supposed to have a night in together... (in the bedroom) to experiment with some stuff we bought and he's made so many excuses about it already.. I'll be lucky if he comes and says goodbye to me tomorrow.. Don't know what to do anymore.

[Batya33]

So the issue here is that you define "really happy together" as being romantic all the time and being in the bedroom a lot. Certainly shared laughter is a good sign. That means you are really happy getting to know each other, especially sexually. It doesn't mean that it's the kind of happy together that develops into a long term relationship. It can -but it might not -because that requires more time, knowing each other over a longer period of time, etc. 6 weeks is a very short time to know someone and you two chose to have sex right away -that can speed things along a bit too fast and make things feel too intense and overwhelming. It sounds like this was a fun, short term fling for him and I would suggest distancing yourself and perhaps taking a step back and getting to know each other on dates and in public, more like once or twice a week.

[j.man]

Barely a month in and you're already going through his messages?

 

PSHSHSHSHHSSHHSHSHSHSHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

[ParisPaulette]

Yes, definitley. I've had it happen to me, had it done to me.

 

It's time to end things and walk away, because a trial for Netflix lasts longer than this has. Too much drama and this isn't even really a relationship yet, because you two are still getting to know each other. And this is what you can already expect. As six months in you should still be all over each other, let alone it dying off at six weeks.

 

Take the hint this wasn't meant to be and just block, delete, move on.

[gp11a]

A month is still early in the getting-to-know-you phase... Definitely possible to lose interest after 6 weeks. This sounds like it was just a short fling... How did you find these flirty messages? Trust is gone, arguments occurring, lack of affection... It sounds like you jumped into relationship mode too quick with this guy, who doesn't seem to be a good fit for what you want.