somuchinlove Posted September 4, 2016 Share Posted September 4, 2016 We've been together 8 months now and things are amazing. We could not be more in love, but school just began and she is extremely stressed out about it now. She's a people pleaser and seems to fill her plate with more things than she can so our plans are the things that are being pushed to the side. We were planning for a while to go on a little day trip to a nice town about an hour away for today. Last night she decided she was not going to be able to do that and have enough time for school work. But just a bit ago she texted me no to have plans for dinner and that we were doing something that she was planning. this naturally made me very happy until I realized we're doing this with her roommate and best friend. I just want to be able to spend time with just her. Today was supposed to be this nice romantic day for the both of us but once again it's not going to be. These things are happening far too often, but she's so excited about doing this tonight I don't want to bring up that I wanted this to be about us only. What do I do? Link to comment
katia Posted September 4, 2016 Share Posted September 4, 2016 Do you think you could go enjoy yourself with the group tonight and reserve this for a conversation tomorrow? You both could enjoy yourselves tonight, and then communicate to her exactly how you feel tomorrow? Just be sure to let her know that you love her, and that you want her company. She may feel very good to know that you want to spend time with her one-on-one, and a loving approach would let her know you're not angry. Link to comment
Matt3939 Posted September 4, 2016 Share Posted September 4, 2016 I had a gf like this for 4 months. She would constantly fill the calander with stuff. We always had to be doing something. Out to dinner 3 times a weekend never alone always with friends. Went on a trip was with her family 15 hr days. I asked for alone time with her besides just in bed. She asked me on another trip I said I would do half. She refused and broke up. Tell you the truth i was happy. Tell her you want to spend time with her and only her. I think it's a reasonable request. Link to comment
somuchinlove Posted September 4, 2016 Author Share Posted September 4, 2016 Thank you katia. I think I can do that. I just like to hear from other people sometimes, you know? Link to comment
katia Posted September 4, 2016 Share Posted September 4, 2016 I definitely know what you mean! Even if you already have an idea of what you're going to do, it's great to hear from other people sometimes. kat Link to comment
somuchinlove Posted September 4, 2016 Author Share Posted September 4, 2016 SHe actually just asked if I'd like to sleep over tonight so that helps a lot. It seems whenever I start overthinking something I realize due to her that there was nothing to overthink in the first place. Link to comment
katia Posted September 5, 2016 Share Posted September 5, 2016 SHe actually just asked if I'd like to sleep over tonight so that helps a lot. It seems whenever I start overthinking something I realize due to her that there was nothing to overthink in the first place. Look at that! She wants to spend quality time with you just as you want to spend quality time with her! I'm happy for you. Link to comment
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