Superman5161 Posted September 4, 2016 Share Posted September 4, 2016 So ive been dating this girl for 3 months amd at first it was going great but now she says everything was going to quick and that she needs space and that she says that shes not girlfriend material. But now she has been going thru alot in her life like reletives dieing and she lost her mom a few years ago. And she also told me shes dealing with depression so i keep telling her that im always here for her if she needs anything. Its just frustrating knowing whats going on and i feel helpless. I dont get to see her much but we do communicate on a daily basis on the phone but i just need help on what to do.... Link to comment
limichelle Posted September 4, 2016 Share Posted September 4, 2016 I would continue being there for her but give her time and space to heal. She sounds like she can't give herself fully to you right now and you don't want just half of her heart. keep your options open and find somebody who is in the same place as you. Lisa Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted September 4, 2016 Share Posted September 4, 2016 You've only known her for three months and by the sounds of it she just wants to end the relationship but she hasn't the confidence to just tell you outright. Why not just let her be and you start your pursuit of other women. You can be there for her IF SHE CONTACTS YOU and be her sounding board and emotional tampon if you want (don't recommend that at all) while you seek out a suitable romantic partner that won't make excuses to not see you. She's telling you to carry on without her so you just go ahead and do that. You don't owe her anything... certainly not your emotional attachment to someone who is clearly telling you that she not suitable girlfriend material (she isn't so listen to her) Link to comment
Superman5161 Posted September 5, 2016 Author Share Posted September 5, 2016 The funny thing is that we dated back when we were kids. Like 20 years ago...and we talk everyday she tells me about everything about her and i believe in my heart that there is something there or she wouldnt have found me again. Link to comment
Superman5161 Posted September 5, 2016 Author Share Posted September 5, 2016 So ive known her for awhile...but the reson she said it was going fast is because i felt comfortable around her beings we dated before Link to comment
Superman5161 Posted September 5, 2016 Author Share Posted September 5, 2016 And also she does come over but not alot also she takes care of her nan thats where she lives is at her nans and shes also not doing good so she has alot on her plate and i think i may be overthinking things but i just hope it gets better once she gets past all the things going on at the moment Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted September 5, 2016 Share Posted September 5, 2016 Let her contact you when she wants. In the meantime start looking to date other women and don't waste your emotions on her. Someone you barely know who is dealing with depression IS NOT good girlfriend material. If she doesn't contact you then so be it. Link to comment
Superman5161 Posted September 5, 2016 Author Share Posted September 5, 2016 But she foes contact. Me and i know her rral well i kown her for over 20 years thats why its hard to not be there for her Link to comment
Superman5161 Posted September 5, 2016 Author Share Posted September 5, 2016 But she does contact. Me and i know her reall well i kown her for over 20 years thats why its hard to not be there for her Link to comment
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