Getting dumped

[spanishgirl99]

Hey guys I just need some advice, how do I get over a person I fell in love with? We were dating and he was such a gentleman and we got along so well but he completely cut me out of his life because his religion doesn't accept it.. he deleted me on everything and doesn't text me or call me.. I feel so lost without him how can I get over it?! What are ways to feel better this is the worst feelings ever everything reminds me of him and it just makes me so sad

[j.man]

Just takes time and an effort to focus on yourself.

 

Kudos on the Selena pic.

[IAmFCA]

I'm sorry, that is a difficult situation. A few things to remember. Unavailable = unavailable, the reasons aren't relevant. What you shared was intoxicating and beautiful, so put it in a symbolic box and up on a symbolic shelf, like a scrapbook. Life does go on. People become widowed and find love again, so we know we can recover and you will.

 

Focus on you, make a goal and drive towards it. That's the best way.

 

Good luck to you as you discover your strength.

[Jeffbobo]

Do the same thing he has done, which is, delete him on everything, don't text or call him. Additionally, get rid of any physical reminders of him. Pictutrs and momentos can be boxed up and labeled, "don't open until doomsday" and stashed in an attic or just disposed of.

 

Then convince yourself that they're never coming back; like the death of a close relative and you grieve as such. Time and moving forward with life will heal.

[ATTS20]

Hey guys I just need some advice, how do I get over a person I fell in love with? We were dating and he was such a gentleman and we got along so well but he completely cut me out of his life because his religion doesn't accept it.. he deleted me on everything and doesn't text me or call me.. I feel so lost without him how can I get over it?! What are ways to feel better this is the worst feelings ever everything reminds me of him and it just makes me so sad

 

He lied. He's back with his x. Let the ship sail and go find yourself an even better relationship.

 

Good luck

[rayfutz]

First of all, the last poster ^^ ignore. He hasn't a clue and it seems like he just wants to create a fuss instead of giving actual advice and ask questions.

 

Ok, so how long had you dated the guy? What do you do with your free time alone? What did you do in your free time, hobbies etc, prior to meeting him. Like by yourself. Keeping busy is number one

[spanishgirl99]

We dated for four months but it was different.. he was different he was really mature and sweet. But before I met him I'd just watch movies and hang out with my cousins and just did the usual stuff nothing special but I was fine because I wasn't heart broken or anything but now when I try to keep myself busy and hang out with my cousins I just keep thinking about him and how easily he just stopped talking to me and blocked me from his life

[IAmFCA]

Be thankful he blocked. I know it's hurtful, but at least it's clear and non negotiable. So often in this situation, the nunavailable one strings along the other. He could have kept you around longer, knowing it was unfair to you. He didn't. Also, he may be grieving, you don't know. The solid wall of no contact may be to help him get past it. It helps you too.

 

You will need to choose a set of thoughts with which to him-thoughts. You will need to be forceful at first.

[spanishgirl99]

Thank you for the advice it's really helpful. I just am scared because I've had bad luck with guys, I feel like I'm never going to find a guy that is scared of loosing me

[IAmFCA]

Thank you for the advice it's really helpful. I just am scared because I've had bad luck with guys, I feel like I'm never going to find a guy that is scared of loosing me

 

Yes, I know that feeling.

Focus on choosing the guy you want, not on being chosen. Also, remember that all relationships end with a letting go of one another, all relationships except for one.