Mr.Mister Posted September 2, 2016 Share Posted September 2, 2016 So, I made a post previously about how I was having some trouble with ED. I am a 32 year old man and I am now engaged to my lovely girlfriend, the same one that I've been having those troubles with. She says it doesn't matter, but I know it does. Well, even though most people suggested that I go to a doctor, I haven't, because my girlfriend doesn't want me to. (Though, I am still thinking about it, and might still go at some point anyway.) Lately, I've been able to preform a lot more often. Maybe it's because she's been really busy so we haven't been doing it as much, which gives me a couple days to recover instead of one night. I don't know. Even so, the problem now is that I go off in like a minute. I can't help it. When I was younger, I used to start thinking about baseball or about all sorts of random things to make myself last longer, and it would work well. Now that I'm older, if I start thinking about things other than sex, my willy goes limp really quick. I have to really concentrate on sex just to keep him all ready to go. A lot of people, in this thread I found, say switch positions, though I usually go off so quickly that there isn't really time for that. Also, if we are busy trying to flip around and try new positions, it might be enough to make me lose concentration, and it'll go limp again, and then it's not coming back up again for a LONG time. We don't use condoms, and I really don't want to (for obvious reasons), and she doesn't want to either, so that's out. Plus, when we were using condoms, trying to put one on without losing the erection was really difficult. I know, I should go see a doctor, but still, humor me... Any tips on how to last longer before orgasm? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shellyf62 Posted September 2, 2016 Share Posted September 2, 2016 Why doesn't your gf want you to see a Dr? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itsallgrand Posted September 2, 2016 Share Posted September 2, 2016 Yes, why wouldn't she encourage you to see your doctor? Especially considering your other thread where you say you are living with a chronic medical condition (MS) which you have been on medications for years and years ?! Makes no sense. You need to talk to your doc. Get to the root of this. It's not just about sex, it's about your health. ED can be an early warning sign of other conditions!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SherrySher Posted September 2, 2016 Share Posted September 2, 2016 Best thing to do is see a doctor..I would think your girlfriend would encourage this as it's not just for improvement of your sex life but to make sure that your health is okay in all other areas. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr.Mister Posted September 2, 2016 Author Share Posted September 2, 2016 Why doesn't your gf want you to see a Dr? Yes, why wouldn't she encourage you to see your doctor? ... Best thing to do is see a doctor... I guess I shouldn't have said she "doesn't want" me to see a doctor. It's more that she doesn't think it's necessary. I think she believes it's all in my head. She also doesn't like the idea of taking pills/chemicals (yes, she's one of those kinds of people), though she won't get mad if I see a doctor, nor will she get mad if I take a pill for it. Also, as I mentioned was going to happen, in this old thread, her and I live together in Japan now. Finding a doctor here is not difficult, but finding one that also speaks English can be kind of tough. Though, I will still look into it. At the bottom of my post I wrote: "I know, I should go see a doctor, but still, humor me..." and asked the question. Yet, everyone is telling me that and focusing on the ED, instead of how to last longer. I was hoping for some tips. Thanks anyway for the help, though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted September 2, 2016 Share Posted September 2, 2016 Go to a major university center, their doctors should be at least conversant or they usually have translators available. Yeah get a good workup...could be anything from occult diabetes to circulatory issues to neurological problems. Tell your gf is's not about walking into a doctors office and randomly getting a penis pill for fun. Kind of selfish/naive to imply that you should get it up by sheer force of her beauty and deny you legitimate health concerns and proper functioning. Penile functioning is a barometer of a lot of physiological things going on. her and I live together in Japan now. Finding a doctor here is not difficult, but finding one that also speaks English can be kind of tough Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matt3939 Posted September 2, 2016 Share Posted September 2, 2016 I agree with the other posters go to the drs. Is there a mayo clinic avalable? Someone mentioned MS? That's why I say go could be neuro related. That being said it could also be mental. I have the exact opposite problem. I have however had ED with certain people and or with condoms. These were absolutely mental for me. How are you when you are alone? Able to maintain an erection? Can you control yourself? I think that would be a good indication if something is medically wrong. If it's just mental as long as you have an understanding partner sounds like you do. Then it can be overcome and it's fun too! Good luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr.Mister Posted September 3, 2016 Author Share Posted September 3, 2016 Go to a major university center, their doctors should be at least conversant or they usually have translators available. Yeah get a good workup... ... Kind of selfish/naive to imply that you should get it up by sheer force of her beauty ... It's actually not as bad as it seems to find English speaking doctors in Tokyo. They don't really have "family doctors" here, so I'd have to go to a eurologist clinic or something. It's still embarrassing and kind of a pain, but I will try and do it. She isn't trying to be mean or anything; she just feels like it is a mental thing and that, if I just relax and stop thinking about it, it'll be fine. However: ... How are you when you are alone? Able to maintain an erection? Can you control yourself? ... No, I am often pushing rope, even when I'm alone. Sometimes I am able to get it up, if I'm really concentrating on sex, and other times, I've got nothing. Yeah, I guess I'll go find a doctor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matt3939 Posted September 3, 2016 Share Posted September 3, 2016 Don't be embarrassed they see and deal with stuff all day good luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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