No one seems to care

[Username542]

I'm 19 years old and I honestly feel like no one is there for me. I can't talk to anyone, I don't like talking to people about how I feel either. I work at this job that treats me like crap, I'm not appreciated there and I never will. I can't drive and live in the middle of nowhere so there's not exactly a lot of options. I get home and am not appreciated here either, I still live with my parents mind you. My friends don't care, they get angry at me for no reason which makes me feel like , I'm just a person floating through life doing nothing important, I'm not important in anyones lives, my life is empty and lonely. I've never even had a proper boyfriend and I'm 19 years old! Am I that unattractive? I feel ugly, fat and unimportant and I'm sick of it. I can't stand up for myself and no one asks to hang out, I'm always the one asking and while sometimes they will say 'yes' it's only if they haven't got something better to do. What can I do? There's been times when I've had dark thoughts but I have no one to talk me out of them if I choose to act on them which scares me. Sometimes I just get so worked up in my own mind that I think the whole world will be better if I were dead, the only thing keeping me alive is my animals. They're the only thing keeping me happy...I just don't know how much longer I can go on like this, but what can I do? My lifes not that bad, there's people that have it worse. That's how it is isn't? I have a good life compared to others? So I should suck it up?

[Hurt]

Why does it matter that people care for you? I mean if you like to paint, just paint. Derive pleasure from doing things you enjoy

[sssh]

Im so sorry that you had a rough start on life. You need to start surrounding yourself with good people,the people you mention are not friends. People who inspire you and those who enjoy your company. Being fat doesnt make anyone ugly. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If you want to feel better about yourself. Try a new haircut or hair col or something that will make you love yourself. If you are unhappy in your job, keep your chin up and apply for other. Jobs maybe even in a different location. If you are not getting along with your family speak to them about it. Bad thoughts are of no use. You are an amazing person always remember that. Look in the mirror every day and sayy to yourself "I am the most beautiful girl in the world" , have that attitude and those around will want to always be with you because of your joyful spirit. Life always gives opportunities to everyone. Grab them . Dont sit back and let the world pass you by. Take care and always smile. Be independent so that those who dont bother about you wont matter to you.

[Wiseman2]

It's time to look for new jobs and consider going to college.. Set some goals for yourself to create a light at the end of the tunnel. Get a nice profile and pics on some dating apps and start browsing for who is out there for you and start meeting and messaging men.

 

Life does not come to you, you have to go to it.

 

Try not to push friends away by complaining and bringing people down. Also see a doctor for a check up and get into some therapy so you have someone to talk to who can help you to begin solving some problems.

I work at this job that treats me like crap.I still live with my parents. I've never even had a proper boyfriend and I'm 19 years old!

[No1]

Sounds like a mid life crisis at 19. You are just fine. What you are doing is looking outward to what others have instead of looking inward. I can assume that most of us have been where you are now at some point in our lives. But who is the one that can change that? Its you.

I learned that if you have people in your life that dont support you or are happy for you, then you need to drop them as friends. People like that keep you down to their level. As far as your job, unless you work for yourself I think a lot of jobs will be unappreciative you, but you cant take it personally. You go to work, do your job and leave your work at work. But I have also learned that if its something you enjoy doing, then it doesnt feel like work. So which will lead me to ask you what do you enjoy doing? Are there jobs in the field that you like doing? Do you have any hobbies?

And dont think of dating or love as a race. Just because you havent had a boyfriend at 19 it means anything important. It just means you havent met the right guy yet. In fact you should kind of be happy because you have prolonged relationship headaches, hassles, arguments, and break ups. But dont worry, youll get there. Just dont be in a rush to get there.

All in all you are okay. You have a job, a place to live, food in your tummy, you are healthy, you are alive, you have a family and you dont have to struggle and worry about where your next meal is going to be or laying in a hospital bed wondering if you are going to make it thru tonight.

If you dont like something in your life, you change it. Make yourself happy then once you do, guys will wonder why you are so happy and they will want to know why. Read up on Laws of attraction. Remember, its not about how you look, its about confidence and how you treat yourself. Just do that..you are okay